hey can u help?

Question

okay im 12 and my boyfriend is 14 um we have been fightin bout every lil thing lately and we even had a fight bout the carpet yesterday and now i found out im pregnant which i no at 12 and 14 isnt sutin that was planned and my moms alwayz on business so thats why i have time for sex wit him but ne wayz i dont want to tell my parents cuz they would like dis own me my parents are divorced so dad dont live wit us i could hide the bump im one month along fall is comin up so i can wear sweatshirts and jasons(my boyfriend) parents no and said they would not tell it was up to me so my doc said i would deliver in march and my moms gone frm january -october 2007 so i could have the baby and my mom not no the baby would live wit his parents but the thing is should i tell my mom and an yother advice for me would help thanx

my mom is a cold hearted ***** and she will NOT care even is the baby is her grandchild trust me

Answer 1

You child are struggling with some pretty huge problems. I find it sad that you have to sort threw this pretty much on your own. For one thing sweetie, you are much too young to try and deal with this on your own. I realize that your mom is away pretty much of the time, but surely she must have someone looking out for you.
It is not too uncommon today for kids to be ignored by their parents, and while most kids are resilient and forgiving, far too often they don't escape the effects of parents who ignore them. From the sound of your post, sweetie, it seems that you are one of these children.
The way I see it honey, your mother probably knows that she doesn't give you the attention that you so deserve. I honestly can say that without a doubt, your mother would blame herself for your predicament because of the fact that she has left you alone so much of the time while she persues her own interests.
I seriously think that you have a responsibility to your unborn child and to your mother to tell of your predicament. I honestly believe that your mother, since she has left you alone so much of the time will not be too too angry. It probably will come as a wake-up call for her as to why she leaves you alone so much.
Pick a good time and approach her to tell her, and don't wait too long. A mother-daughter talk is long over-due, take the initiative and approach her, I'm sure that she will welcome the opportunity to have such a talk. Also, I am positive that they will not disown you, even though your parents are divorced, I know that they love you just by the simple fact of you saying they will disown you.
One more thing, you are focusing a lot on covering up your pregnancy, of hiding, dear, what you should be thinking on is after your baby is born and the delivery itself because of you age.
Besides, child, if your big enough to have sex, be big enough to tell your mom. It will only be for the better of what you are going to have to go through.

Answer 2

First, you shouldn't be doing this at the age of 12. What you should do is to shop like any other girls, not getting an abortion. The best way is definitely to tell your mom and she will help you. Otherwise, if you are negligable, then the future isn't looking to bright for you. So what I consider is that, you should definitely tell your parents. They know from right and wrong and for know, you don't. As them and they will tell you. DO NOT continue on what your doing or your going to be put in further risk and trouble then before.

Answer 3

I think it's only fair for you to tell your mom. I'm sure she might seem angry at first, but in the end, she'll understand and be supportive. I know that I don't live your life and I don't know what you're going through, but your mom loves you and she's there for you. It's a good thing that you have a plan for the baby already. I really think that your mom would be supportive and she could really help with what you're going through because she's gone through pregnancy before too. (Assuming she's your birth mother.)

Answer 4

I know a 14 yr old who is pregnant. That's way to young for girls to be having sex and babies. If you were brave enough to have sex than you tell your mom because a mother is considered a best friend and trust me you will need one. Don't think about abortion because that's murder and your mom had you. You the one that had sex and you put yourself in this situation and it's not that baby's fault so don't kill it. If you don't think you can raise that baby than there's lots of women in this world who prays to have babies but they can't so give it to someone who will care for it. I don't consider a baby a mistake but next time you think about having sex please use safe birth control and I'm use you know what that is. Good Luck

Answer 5

i feel really bad for you!! i would deffinately tell your mom though. yes, she will be angry at first, but she also has to realize that if your parents are divorced and shes away on work, shes not spending any quality time with you, which she cant help, every parent has to have an income. but i think that not having your dad around also makes you think that maybe you just need some love, since your on you own most of the time. understand what im saying. your craving the attention that your not getting from your parents. but please tell her, shes also got to think about that being her grandchild.

Answer 6

have the baby and put it up for adoption. you are in no way capable of having a child depend on you. and yes you need to tell your mom. pregnancy is very hard on a woman's body and emotions and you aren't even a woman yet. you are going to need pretty intensive medical care since you are so young and you are probably going to need a parent to consent to treatment. i don't think you can even petition the courts yet to be emancipated in order to be able to consent to treatment yourself. please think about your future and the baby's future. you aren't even a teenager yet...how are you supposed to get a high school education and raise a baby? children require more than just some one to change a diaper and play peekaboo. you are not yet anywhere close to being ready to be a mother, even if someone else is doing most of the work. give the baby the best possible future and put it up for adoption.

Answer 7

There are centers you may goo to for help such as the Pregnancy Helpline. Your parents will be your parents no matter what even if they react harshly. I was 21 when I found out I was pregnant and I was still scared to tell my family but my grandpa who raised me like his own when my dad died was furious with me for not telling him first. I hope you find the strength to do what you know is right.

Answer 8

What are you, are you just gonna tell yourself that your mom will nvr know? And deliver the baby and throw him aside by the trash bin? And your baby goes to adoption centre?

Well don't be naive, girl. I suggest you tell either your mom or your dad. Tell an adult. 12 year olds cannot think for theirselves in cases like this. Your parents won't disown you. They will just be so freaking mad at you for having freaking sex at just 12! I don't why I am like so freaking mad reading your question!

Answer 9

Its better to tell them they will be mad for a while but they will get over it sooner or later because they love you. I have been there to just not that young. your parents are going to be more mad that you didn't trust them enough to talk to them about it just let them know you have to talk to them about something and you know their going to get mad but you will feel better about it after you have told them. The stress of it is not good for you or the baby. Stress could cause problems with your pregnancy and you really don't need that thing happen you cant change it but you can make it better good luck with whatever you decide and congratulations on the baby

Answer 10

You should tell your mom because you need as much help as you can get during this time. I just can't believe at only 12 your not even a teenager yet. What grade are you in???