there is this boy chris and well ive asked him out so many times but each time i ask him out he turnes me down and that just makes me want him more what should i do?
2006-07-14 17:50:54 · 33 answers · asked by Via M 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
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2006-07-14 17:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him more every time he turns you down, maybe you should take a close look at the way you see yourself. Why are you so attracted to someone who rejects you? Have you got your self-esteem wrapped up in this one guy? You're more valuable than that. Stop focusing on Chris, and instead focus on yourself. Chances are he isn't even the guy you think he is. We tend to create idealized versions of people we're attracted to, and the fact that you want him more every time he says no makes me think that's what's going on here. I bet he's not worth all this grief. Let go, find some other things to occupy your time, and remind yourself every day of all the positive things about YOU. I know, it's not easy, but most of the folks here are right...you can't make someone like you. If you were very manipulative you might be able to get him to go out with you, but he wouldn't like you any more. Then you'd be stuck with a guy who doesn't really want to be with you, and that's never fun. And on top of that, you'd be manipulative and scheming, and this guy isn't worth taking yourself down to that level.
Hang in there! It'll get better! I know it probably feels like you'll never get over him, but I promise you will.
2006-07-14 19:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. Obviouly the guy isn't into you. Find some other guy to focus on. Talk to someone, preferably older, about why you keep obsessing on this Chris guy.
Why do you want to keep hurting yourself like this? There is nothing you can do to make someone like you. And to keep asking someone out who keeps saying no just keeps pushing them further and further away.
Every woman in the world, and probably every guy, has really cared about at least 1 person in their lives and has had to get over it. It sucks. But it will get better if you move on. If you stay stuck on him you will never find that guy out there that you are meant to be with. Obviously it isn't Chris.
2006-07-14 19:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give it up, to be honest. You'll not be able to make, OR force someone to like you. It's one of the few true impossibles in life. He'll either like ya or not. It may be that he's getting a kick out of being pursued. If he's got a girlfriend, or likes another girl, having you after him will not only boost his ego, but will serve as evidence for other girls that he's "eligible".
He already knows ya like him. Askin him out's only gonna help him score with other girls, so yer actually makin it tougher on yourself. Ignore him, and it'll be more likely that he'll start to wonder about ya.
2006-07-14 17:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Dell W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from my experience if you fall back and just be your self then may be he will come around men like a challenge so don't make it so easy and still after you try this he still shows no sign then move on because your better than that !!!!!! theire will be some one better out ther for you and that person will return your feelings so either why you will come out of this the better person!!!!(and what if you get with him and hes a jerk so girl make sure this is worth all the time your putting in )
2006-07-14 19:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by homeg27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make a guy like you. You just need to accept the fact that he has no interest in you and move on. Try other guys. I know it will be hard but that's just the way it needs to be. Don't worry, God has a plan for you. All you need to do is be more patient and time will work its way out in your favor.
2006-07-14 18:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by bond_fan_001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it kind of makes me think of Fatal Attraction.
You cannot make anyone like you sweetie,and you can actually drive them away along with everyone who knows them by keeping on even after being turned down.
Why expend so much energy on a boy who does not want you...you are better than that, find someone who deserves your time and attention. :)
2006-07-14 19:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say save your dignity and stop asking so much. After a while it can start to look pitiful. There are far more fish in the sea!
2006-07-14 17:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by I Have The Answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl leave him alone, if he like you he will let you know. Dont force your self your better off moving on. Its not ment to be. Someone else will come alone.
Focus on your self and get to know you. Focus on education and goals.
2006-07-15 02:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always want something we can't have, it's part of human nature. Find a hobby to help forget about him, and if it's meant to be it will happen sooner or later don't push it.
2006-07-14 17:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by saint71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think Chris likes you the way you like him. Go fishing for other fish.
2006-07-14 17:55:05 · answer #11 · answered by thebandgeek3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋