Are there any guys out there that are willing to give a 26 yr old mother of two a chance at friendship and maybe more? I would like to believe that I have a genuine personality that only a special someone can understand. I am a very open and honest person and do not have a problem with being honest and sincere.
I want someone who will judge me by personality and not by my looks. There is more to a person than what they look like and I think looks are just an added bonus. Any advice would be helpful.
2006-07-14 17:47:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It has been my experience that the women are the ones that cannot see past the outer shell. Good luck to you.
2006-07-14 18:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by r0cky74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we are out here. you just have to know how to find us.
Suggest you read Dr. phils Book called ( Smart love) Hate the man but this book was really pretty good.
I also suggest
The 5 Love languages, By Chapman
and
his needs, her needs, by willard harley jr.
I suggest these because chances are you still have bagage from the previous relationship ( no I don;t mean the wonderful children) we men can accept kids in our life what we don;t care for is competing with the past. ( it's a no win situation for us)
Take a cold hard look and learn from (your) mistakes. and if you say (i never made any then your only lying to your self. )
once you can accept responsibilty for your actions, AND write down qualities in a ( good mate for you and the children) chances are the right man will walk right into your life ( or even be there now and you just do not even recognize him yet) which is very likely the case =)
God Bless you and your family.
2006-07-14 17:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sully 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of genuine guys out there. Trust me. I am 28, single, educated, have a career all that. Not only am I genuine, but, due to my career, fraternity, vast group of highschool friends, etc., I know that there are hundred and hundred of dudes in each and every city that are that way as well. Heck, I have many friends, that I am close with, that are like that.
There many, many dudes that are willing to accept children. Now, there are some dudes that do not want a girl with children, that does not make them bad...it is just how they are. What would make them bad is if they lied about wanting them, and then treated them bad because they really didn't. I am sure that children will not be a hang up for you.
Looks are only skin deep. A good man might date a girl a few times because she is good looking, however, he will not stay with her unless she has an attractive personality. For me, looks are way down the list of importance. I have to have a girl that will challenge me mentally, intrigue me with conversation, make me laugh, has a kind heart, is responsible, motivated to succeed, has her stuff together, loves her family, is fiscally responsible, makes good decision...you know, makes me want to be with her, excites me, wants to be with me rather than needs me...because that is how I am. Now, a relationship cannot succeed if the people are not attracted to one another. For me, I really do not have a type, and personality goes along way...I just need the girl to be healthy...you know, have enough self-respect to take care of herself...keep herself in respectable shape (this does not mean being skin and bones like the magize cover girls) this just means to keep herself in healthy shape, groom herself well...be proud of herself, you know? If she does not care about her health or how she presents herself, there is obviously something more going on inside her head.
I would suggest doing what you can to put yourself in a position to present yourself to a man in your target audience. If you are a college grad, then you might think about going to grad school to find a man. If you have goals and aren't educated, you might think about taking a class. Try all the leads that your friends have.
After contrasting my friends that get dates and those who dont, one thing that is terribly clear is the dudes that get dates are realistic as to what kind of girls they can get with. The dudes who are not realistic, don't get dates. Take a long, hard, honest inventory of yourself. Make an honest determination of what kind of guy matches your intelligence, socio-economic level, attractiveness, goals, place in life, etc. Once you do that, you will have much more success.
Good Luck!
2006-07-14 18:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a genuine guy over here. My girl is pregnant though and she is so grouchy, she'd disagree with me in a heartbeat.
2006-07-14 17:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by amighty9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on if age matters. I'm 17...weirdmonkeyspanker@yahoo.com
2006-07-14 17:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here i sthe proposal 4 u ,im at suhail3@yahoo.com
2006-07-14 19:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Suhail A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course...
the right one comes unexpectedly. :D
2006-07-14 17:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, dear... i'm like you... but too far...
2006-07-14 18:04:33 · answer #8 · answered by michelesilenzio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey what is up?
2006-07-14 17:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by sicivic05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋