my b/f is a pot head and its nasty and i hate the smell and the way he acts he smokes everyday like all day long and we cant afford it anymore? hes going to put us in debt?
what do i do? i have ac hild with him and i love him were going to be together no matter what?
what do i do? he wont quit? he is mean if he doesnt have it????
2006-07-14 16:41:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not a physical addiction. It's habitual. There is no Detox center for pot users, because all they have to do is quit. You need to convince him to quit.
2006-07-14 17:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am in no way trying to negatively judge you or anyone else. I am just seeking understand here.
In a previous post, a few minutes back, you stated something like: My man and I are thinking about being together forever; We are moving away together; He doesn't satisfy me with foreplay; He doesn't buy me things to my satisfaction; etc. In this post, you say that he smokes pot; You do not like it; He is financially irresponsible as well.
I realize you are probably just upset and frustrated right now, which is why you are posting all of his negatives. He must have many positives too, which is why you love him, right?
Time for the tough question:
I am guessing your man has been like this since day 1. Dudes typically don't change much. If you could not accept all of these negatives, which I completely understand, why did you enter in to a life-long relationship with him? You say that you are concerned about moving 100 miles away with him. I would think having a child together would be a much bigger step in a relationship than moving. You have already done that. If his pot smoking bothered you so much, why did you have a kid with him? What gave you the idea that he was going to change?
Having said all that, even though the questions were in reference to your situation, I am, more or less, throwing those out there for all the girls that are in or have been in a similar situation. Although the scenarios and concerns may vary from situation to situation, I think your situation is closer to the norm than the exception.
2006-07-15 00:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will only quit when he is ready to. He probably doesn't think he has a problem. Sounds like it's an abusive relationship you have, and if it's not, then it's headed that way. You need to think about yourself and your child and your safety. I hate to suggest this because you do love him, but leaving may be your only answer. Tell him the reason you are leaving is because of the pot. Maybe you leaving and taking his child away might make him realize that you are serious and it's time to quit. If it doesn't, then you are better off.
Think about it seriously... take care of yourself and your child. Stay safe and good luck!
2006-07-14 23:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u may can have some type of intervention. Try having some close family and friends over like on TV and see if that may help. It will kinda give him a mental picture of how he is action out because of the pot. I hope it gets better for u and the child.
2006-07-14 23:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could talk to a drug-rehab counselor and see if they can give you some tips on how to approach him. I know you said you will be together no matter what but you also have to think about your child. Do you want them growing up in this type of environment, where drugs are more important than paying the bills? If you think of no one else, think about the child. And if he is getting mean, do you want him lashing out at your child when he is having a fit? It sounds like he needs a wake up call.
2006-07-14 23:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lilah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont like it then explaine to him how he feels, your reading a answer from a long time ago pothead, now, its not easy to quit, and its not going to be easy for him, If he wont quit then i suggest trying to get him to not do it infront of you, Never leave someone cause of a habbit, it could be a massive loss. so thats why i say talk with him and make him understrand, "even though he is a pothead, i guarantee he still loves you no matter what"
2006-07-14 23:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by lllxxlll_thugz_4_life_lllxxlll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
another sad excuse for love, he is a pothead but you will be with him no matter what?
then stay with him and don't worry about him being a pothead, if he is too much of a pothead then break all his fingers and he can't hold the pot to smoke it
2006-07-15 00:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he smoked pot when you got together with him, you have no right to try and make him quit. Obviously you accepted his smoking in the past, why has your opinion changed. He is not going to quit because you want him to, he has to want to quit for himself. Good luck.
2006-07-14 23:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to throw him out, or you leave. Period. He will not change. He is an addict. I know you wish you could change him, many women have had the same wish.
Sorry, it doesn't work. End it now. Get the pain overwith and get on with your life. He belongs to his drug. It's his wife, his girlfriend, his mother, his family, his god, his everything.
He is no longer part of your world. He is there in body, but his mind is long gone. Please save yourself, time to end this thing before it ends you.
2006-07-15 00:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by brian k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it so he can't get it anymore. If he can't figure out that smoking is hurting is relationships, maybe he has to learn the hard way. And unfortunately you might be the bearer of that lesson.
Good luck, stay strong.
2006-07-14 23:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by Nanjadufrance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋