We're getting married. His family hates me (literally, for real...they've said so.)
Would it matter to you? What do you think?
2006-07-14 16:40:52 · 35 answers · asked by bridetobebrandie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it would matter to me big time. It isn't that they hate you, it is that they have the balls to tell you that. If they were a good family who respected each other and had healthy boundries in the family.A good family might not like the choice of a spouse, but in respect of that persons uniquness they are nice and polilte to that person. Sounds like a very CONFRONTATIONAL family. If they are now, can you imagine the future. And the fact that your future spouse LETS his family say such things to me is a big red flag.
Also, often the apple doesn't fall too far from the tree.
You might end up with a partner who is like the parents.
Sounds like you guys either need to move to the other side of the planet or you need to come to some sort of family peace. Or your future will be a volital night mare.
2006-07-14 16:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that would depend on how your husband feels about his family and the ones that hate you the most .
If hes close with them he may give in to the pressure they put on him to leave you , if he doesn't care what they think and is willing to stand up for you or doesn't like them as well , don't think you have much to worry about then .
2006-07-14 16:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by insertstrawhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he feels about his family disliking you? Does discuss this with you at all? Well if this doesn't matter to him how they fell, then go ahead and be happy. Love has no limits. The family will just have to get use to you being his wifey. Congrats.
2006-07-14 16:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that he loves you enough to trust his own judgment but the fact his family hates you is a big deal because they can and will make you life a living hell. My grandmother hates my mother and it's taken her 30 years to get grandma off her back.
2006-07-14 16:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, maybe they just dont know you well enough. My husbands father didnt like me much, but after years of being in the family I guess I grew on him. My sister-in-law is more like they are than I am, I'm from the city they were from a small town.
2006-07-14 16:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol hasn't that tutor been off the air for like 15 yrs? guy u ought to quite have hated that tutor if u'r nevertheless furious about now..provide it a relax already, flow on each and every else did about 15 yrs in the past
2016-12-06 12:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES it does matter ---Men are just overgrown boys and it is true what they say ---Blood is thicker than water! Every arguement you will have with him will end up with him saying, I should have listened to my family because they were right about you (regardless if it is true or not). Trust me on this --I saw this DESTROY my best friends marriage. Run for the hills girlfriend!
2006-07-14 16:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by jiffypop88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is matter to me. I wanna celebrate Christmas, New Year, Thanksgiving together with my family and his family such as a big family. If his family hate me, how can i do that... You should fin out why his family hate you, do you hear it from them or is it just your feeling? find the truth and work it out.
2006-07-14 16:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope your his family now. I have the same problem with my husbands family and it's really sad they have absolutely no reason to feel this way but they do and so we decided together as husband and wife that we are each others family now. Good Luck
2006-07-14 16:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by been there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Love him and He Loves you, thats the real issue there.. Sure it would be nice if everyone could get along, but it shouldnt put a damper on you two getting married... LOVE, LIVE AND BE HAPPY, GOOD LUCK , LOL , ROB
2006-07-14 16:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋