My friend and I have been planning a party for over a month (as you may notice from my previous questions.)
Tonight I was going to stay up at her house and help her clean then tomorrow we were going to decorate. Then her cousin called. So she ditched me, and I drove the groceries up to her house (half hour away) while she picked up her cousin (who lives an hour away) so I waited 2 hours at her house TWO HOURS and as soon as she comes in she says "oh you can go home me and my cousin will just do everything" and I said 'you dont want me to help decorate?!?" and she said "no its okay we'll do it" and then just stood there...so I left.
Basically, I just planned this whole party for her....then paid for half of EVERYTHING and now I get absolutely no say in how the food is prepared and where everything is going. Would you be PISSED?!?! BECAUSE I AM. I understand she wants to spend time with her cousin but....god!
Should I ask for my half of the party money back?? Would you??
2006-07-14 16:30:28 · 14 answers · asked by Tiffany C 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok she just called me and said after I left her cousin and her brother explained to her that she was really rude about it and she didn't mean it like that...she just didn't want to make me clean after I planned everything. So I said "well I still want to help decorate, maybe I'll come over in the morning" and we agreed that'd be cool. So thanks for listening to me vent everyone lol I'm calmed down now. If she hadn't appologized I'd be furious with her...but yah, its okay now. Thanks for being so supportive.
2006-07-14 16:48:01 · update #1
You have the right to be mad, but she may not even realize what she is doing. I would give her the night with her cousin and tomorrow before the party starts you should show up.... That is when you should pull her aside and say "Hey, you know you really hurt my feelings by excluding me from all the preparation of the party." Let her know that you were looking forward to doing this with her as a team, but now feel that you were just used to pay for half.... See what her reaction to that is and then decide if you should ask for the money back.... I would also be prepared not to stick around for the clean-up.... If she is truly using you, that will be when it really kicks into overdrive.
2006-07-14 16:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definatelly! If she felt her cousin could help her plan and decorate the party better than you and her could, then her cousin should have been fronting her half of the money. That's kinda like a smack in the face. Kinda like she was just using you all along to get you to pay for half the things, and once you did she kicked you to the curb. I hate to think.
2006-07-14 23:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by yelloerose07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YA! I would ask for the money back. How dare she exclude you. You had a huge portion to do with the party and you have/had every right to stay. The tradgedy would be if you had a shite time because she and her cousin were there. I'd tell her that if she is so keen to not including you, she can pay and do everything else herself as well.
2006-07-14 23:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Chloe McIntosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have every right to be angry. As soon as you have a minute alone with her, give her a piece of your mind. However, don't go yelling at her. That won't do any good. Tell her that she made you feel used. You paid for that stuff, then she kicked you out to have all the fun with her cousin. Tell her that you feel used, and just make her feel guilty. I'm not all about laying on guilt trips, but this girl deserves it.
2006-07-14 23:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be crazy if you weren't mad. Your friend is extremely rude and took advantage of you for her own selfish reasons and that's not fair to you at all. The least you should do is tell your friend why you're upset and tell her you think she was insensitive and you deserve your money back. If she refuses or gets defensive she is not a good friend, and not nearly as good of a person as you are for trying to help her out. I'd reconsider your friendships!
2006-07-14 23:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by smarty08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be MAD, Or as you say PISSED OFF, Just try & Calm Down for now, But AS SOON AS YOU CAN, ONCE HER COUSIN LEAVES, YOU HAVE A CHAT WITH HER FACE TO FACE NOT OVER THE PHONE & LET HER KNOW HOW SHE MADE YOU FEEL. DO NOT HOLD BACK. Wish you well. BUT Handle your Business
2006-07-14 23:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by sweettoni37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you have every right to be mad! i would absolutely tell her that since you were helping with the whole thing and paid a lot towards it, you feel you should get your money back, or at least half of it if she wont give it all back. did she un-invite you to the party?
2006-07-14 23:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why couldnt you stay????the whole 3s a crowd thing???????
yeah I'd be miffed....but the time t ask for the $ back was when she said u were DONE!!!!! then she and yourself could have had your blow out and hopefully it would have blown over b4 party time...r u still going to the party...???did this happen as soon as they came back? if she wanted 2 b alone w cuz may b she should have made the drive a bit longer!!!!!!...WIERD!!!!
could they b kissen cuzzins????
2006-07-14 23:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by sunny s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she did was extremely rude, I would discount her as a friend, and yes, ask for the money back.
2006-07-14 23:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by Why? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she appreciates what u've done for the party she should'nt do what she's done to u. And u should definetly ask for evrything u have spent for the party,
2006-07-14 23:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by q-noy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋