I have been married for 9 years and have never gotten used to my husband being quiet at times. Some days he gabs and gabs and some days he can be happy and not say a word. I get aggravated with the moodiness cause his silence makes me think something is wrong in our relationship. Anyone else out there have trouble getting your man to open up? How does it make you feel?
2006-07-14 16:20:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My hubby does the same thing. One bad thing at work and he comes home grumpy and refuses to talk, sometimes doesn't even want to be in the same room as me (especially if I've had a good and I'm in a chatty mood). I'll do absolutely nothing wrong and it sets him off, so I rack my brain trying to figure out what I did. Then asking him what I did only makes it worse. He's told me that when he comes home like that to just leave him alone and let him cool down, but it is hard when you feel pushed away. If I have a bad day I want to come home to him and talk about it and have him tell me it will all be ok. It hurts sometimes that he doesn't want to tell me about his day, because in my mind we're supposed to share the good and the bad. But it does help to give him a little cooling off period if I can tell he's had a bad day - just a little while in front of the tv or playing video games while I finish up dinner usually helps. Its frustrating to work around his moods but I'd rather do that than have him lash out at me when I annoy him with all my questions!
2006-07-14 16:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathize, although he is getting better. Like you i would think that something was wrong, plus I HATE to be ignored. We had a long talk, finally when couldn't take it anymore, he said he just wants to be left alone sometimes, and i explained to him how that made me feel, and also that if he wanted to be left alone all the time then he shouldn't have gotten married. Sometimes they just have to see things from another perspective to understand. They are, after all, men, so it may take some time. Good Luck!!
2006-07-14 16:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, no. I'm in a relationship where my guy is quiet most of the time, due to some problems with his past. Honestly, I hate it how quiet he'll be, I never can tell when I'm being ignored for Guild Wars, Conquer, Oblivion, Morrowind, DDR, or some other game. Then when he opens up, he really opens up. IT DRIVES ME INSANE!
2006-07-14 16:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by roverriffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're husband sounds a lot like me. I can tell you from my experience that when i'm quiet that's the way I want to be, and find it very annoying when my g/f doesn't repect that.
Try to be more self-confident and don't start imagining all kinds of bad stuff.
Give your husband time to work through his problem, and don't sweat it. He won't be quiet forever!!
2006-07-14 16:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same type of man..But I have notice that when he is stress out .. is when he is different..It makes me wonder if there is something wrong in our relationship..and we have been married 9yr also. Weir....It makes me sad,but now that I know that someone else has this same problem I don't feel as bad.
2006-07-14 20:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Angie29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care....its that honest and simple...
If he wants to open up fine, if he doesn't and he becomes moody cause he expects me to know what is wrong, i wont play thoes games, cause Im not a child nor should you....
2006-07-14 16:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by ~Sinfully~Exquisite~Stalking~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was married to one like that. In his case it turned out he was bi-polar and didn't know it. Maybe have doctor check him out for any illness. Otherwise find a good book to read when he doesn't want to talk.
2006-07-14 16:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋