My husband is apparently addicted to porn. This insults me on the deepest level, and honestly, I feel he may as well be cheating on me. In the Bible, adultery is grounds for divorce... does that mean lusting after other women or sexual acts is considered adultery?
2006-07-14 15:24:43 · 11 answers · asked by Rhonda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband is not lusting after those women as you are describing in the Bible...he is simply using porn as visual stimulation so he can take care of himself....However....I will say the more porn a guy usually watches the more unsatisfied he is with his sex life. Instead of looking to slam you husband for doing something normal...talk to him about why he enjoys it and open communication lines to make sure you are aware of his needs physically...guys are very visually oriented and so this is how guys get excited...I would utilize porn to make sure he focuses his love and desired to you and with you...and if he feels like you hate this...he will only have to hide it better
2006-07-14 15:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Holly F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many won't llike what I say here but here goes. I lost my wife of 20 years due to my porn addiction. I never wanted or loved any woman but her but when I was a young man chasing women I got used to looking at it and never stopped. The internet makes it way to easy to look at just about any sex act possible. I didn't like the gyno shots actually I liked pretty women in various staes of undress. For 5 years I hoped she would catch me and throw a fit because it's lure was such that I could not stop. Turns out she knew for years and just couldn't take the hurt it caused and left me this febuary. I don't blame her one bit but thankfully because of the trama of her leaving I have changed my whole life for the better and it is no longer an attraction for me. All I can tell you is force the issue and demand he get help. If you don't you will be sorry down the road. I wish I could spend just 10 minutes talking to your husband about the terrible loss I suffered due to my surfing. It's not worth it. Find something productive to do withyour time like building a better relationship. You won't be sorry.
2006-07-14 22:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by trailerparkbadass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - to look at another with lust in your heart is to comit adultery. Some people will say but he didn't "DO" anything ...
He has a problem and you have the right to be insulted! I would be furious! He needs help and needs to stop. It's the same thing as flirting on-line with someone ... even if if they never meet...
2006-07-14 22:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by BigBadBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust is one of the 7 deadly sins. Does "thou shalt not covet thy neighbors wife." come into focus?
I almost never hear of a story like this ending up happily ever after. It's usually the wife feeling jilted. I would talk to your husband about how you feel.
He is not actually doing the sexual acts physically, but in his mind, I bet it's him in those pics. Not knowing you or your hubby, sounds like something is missing in your relationship..intimacy of some sort.
Before you go the Divorce route, really talk to him, ask him why he looks at these pics, tell him this greatly offends you(and it should) and you would like him to stop. It should be you he goes and drools for. Offer to wear sexy lingerie..spice things up a little. Get a hold on your hubby and marriage now, before it's too late.
2006-07-14 22:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by Misty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ease up on the bible thumping mama.
The real issue seems to be his lack of respect for your feelings and his selfishness of his own gratification.
Suggest counseling. If he won't go with you, you should go alone. Work towards positive change to move your relationship away from porn.
Tell him how you feel about it using the words "I feel....".
Do not use the word "you" when you talk to him.
He obviously has a problem and needs help. If he won't get help there is little you can do except accept it, or divorce him.
Good luck!
2006-07-14 22:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there are alot worse things that men can do with their time rather than LOOK at porn. After all, he could be out there practicing what he's watching with someone else. I think you should look at the porn and see what he likes and try to do it. After all the couple that plays together, stays together.
2006-07-14 23:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband looks at porn quite often and I just shrug it off. Men are visual creatures and I don't think looking is the same as following through.
2006-07-15 14:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by cryptoscripto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you are just looking for a reason to divorce him. You must not be fullfilling his needs sexually or he wouldn't be watching. Think of it this way....he could be out acting those sceens instead of just watching at home and wishing it was him.
2006-07-15 01:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-07-15 04:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not with another women it's ok.It may help your love life!
2006-07-14 22:30:40 · answer #10 · answered by Kiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋