I have a 2 yr. old son and he likes to sleep with a teddy bear and me and my wife think it is just fine...but my wife's mom insists that he is to old to do such a thing and that we don't know how to take care of a child. she tells me i should be a man and yank it away from him. But my wife and i feel that he uses it for comfort and he a baby still.We have even told her that it is our decision and not hers.... We both feel that we would look like heartless snakes to be cruel to our son..........how do you feel......should we take it away
2006-07-14 14:58:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
that baby needs his bear there is nothing wrong with it. both of mine had theres an only sleep with it. i dont let them take it every where.
moms are like that they think they did a great job with us (lol) and want to help
get mom a hobby and ya do what you want for your son. your his parents and i dont see anything wrong with his bear.
2006-07-14 15:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in God's name would you even think of listening to this cruel, heartless "grandmother," who obviously has some serious issues and is butting in where she has no right to anyway? You say you and your wife feel that it is fine for him to have a teddy bear. Okay! End of argument! Do you let the evil grandmother walk all over you and tell you what to do? Do you think you could be a "man" and tell her to get lost and mind her own business? My son is 8, all boy, and still has a stuffed animal that he is very attached to. Nothing at all wrong with that!!! Real men have a tender side, too.
2016-03-27 05:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you shouldn't take it away...he's still a baby...you have to keep in mind that older ppl think differently...they don't mean you any harm with things they tell you, they are telling you what they believe to be the best way to handle things. Keep in mind that I am a grandmother...my mother-inlaw used to do the same thing when my kids were young...I used to get so pissed off until my sister explained to me why grandparents do that..Listen to what your told about raising kids...take what you can use from it..throw out what you don't want. In the end your responsible for raising your kid/s the way you want. It's your job to make sure they are good people. Just remember that grandparent have been in your shoes and do know somethings!
2006-07-14 15:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no!!He is only little once and you better let him hold onto his teddy as long as he still wants to.My son is two and wont go anywhere without his blanky.He's not 10 he is two.
As for the grandma she needs to mind her own business.He is YOUR son.If all she has to complain about is a teddy bear than she needs to get a life.There is absolutly nothing wrong with that.Take away her depends and see how she feels!!!
2006-07-14 15:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lenina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think if that is ok for your son just ignore her..but think and try to understand that what she meant is that she dont want your son grow up with female's things and can effect him in his personality. She want you to take away that teddy bear which is according in female's thing to her from your son before is too late.
More older your son more difficult to seperate things from him especially the thing that he likes very much.
Find another way for your son to avoid him from up set...change that teddy bear with other toy....robbot for example
It is okay to have teddy bear untill 2 years even untill teenager ...but if your child is girl not boy..
Sorry...this is my opinion...Hope you can understand
2006-07-14 15:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT!!! Grandma needs to be Buttin out instead of buttinskying. She obviously has NOOOO clue what it takes to be a real parent tell her to mind her own damn business or STAY away.. UNFORTUNATELY sometimes this is what we have to do when some ppl dont take the direct approach seriously. AND I dont think I would let my child spend too much "ALONE" time with ole NANA. Children of ALL ages need security of some type or the other. Dont let NANA make you look like idiots!!!!
2006-07-14 15:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by Angel B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not. I am a 58 year old grandmother of four and have four children of my own. all my children had something that made them fell safe and loved and my youngest grandchild is 19 months and loves to play with your hair while he is going to sleep. They are just babies once, let them be babies, they will have to face the world soon enough. Just love them and enjoy those years, tell grandma that you love your child and that's the way it is, take it or leave it.
2006-07-14 15:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't take it away. When he gets older, he'll start using things like a blanket and then move on to a pillow. I did the same thing. To this very day, I have to have my arm around something. So, I keep a small pillow to snug or put my hand behind my pillow. I hope this helps. :)
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2006-07-14 15:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do not think so. Tell mom politely this is your baby and you two have discussed the matter, you feel it's alright for the baby to have his teddy bear. Leave it at that.
2006-07-14 15:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think the issue is about the teddy, you say she is bossy.. then she definitely overriding your decisions as a man, a father. a no is a no if you and your wife see no harm and agree then so be it.its your home your family you are the head she should respect it no matter how small a matter maybe
2006-07-14 15:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by bravo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋