BOSSY GRANDMOTHER TELLING ME and MY WIFE HOW TO TAKE CARE OF OUR SON........HELP!!!!!!?

Question

I have a 2 yr. old son and he likes to sleep with a teddy bear and me and my wife think it is just fine...but my wife's mom insists that he is to old to do such a thing and that we don't know how to take care of a child. she tells me i should be a man and yank it away from him. But my wife and i feel that he uses it for comfort and he a baby still.We have even told her that it is our decision and not hers.... We both feel that we would look like heartless snakes to be cruel to our son..........how do you feel......should we take it away

Answer 1

Heck sometimes I sleep with my teddy bear and trust me I'm way over 2 yrs old. He's fine, he's still a baby , let him have his bear.:)

Answer 2

Why in God's name would you even think of listening to this cruel, heartless "grandmother," who obviously has some serious issues and is butting in where she has no right to anyway? You say you and your wife feel that it is fine for him to have a teddy bear. Okay! End of argument! Do you let the evil grandmother walk all over you and tell you what to do? Do you think you could be a "man" and tell her to get lost and mind her own business? My son is 8, all boy, and still has a stuffed animal that he is very attached to. Nothing at all wrong with that!!! Real men have a tender side, too.

Answer 3

Heck no! If you take anything away it should be time spent with your MIL...she is absolutely WRONG, and who the heck does she think she is telling you to be a man..come the f*ck on.... Seriously. Cut her off. Your wife needs to stand up to her mother and tell her that she either keeps her negative opinions to her self, that they are your choices, and mistakes if that's the case to make, not hers, and if she keeps it up then she will not be around your son. I mean, you don't want him to pick up any bad habits, and for her to be so outright disrespectful is just the lowest of the low...She seriously has no right.... Can you tell I am getting mad at her and I don't even KNOW her..but that is how so very wrong what she is doing is.

I hope you stand your ground soon or else she will be this way your whole lives...that woman needs to understand that the road to HER grandbabies is through you two and if she doesn't pay the fine..then she doesn't get to pass GO....

Let him have his teddy until he moves to college...its not hurting anyone and never will. Screw your MIL...she needs to keep her fat mouth shut.

Answer 4

You are right !! Your MIL needs to stay out of it
this is your child and although you and your wife might not always agree on how to rear your kids
In My mind it is not bad to have your child of 2 to sleep with you and mom (not every night though )
As for the security blanket or teddy bear
My 16 year old daughter who has many mental disabilities still has her blanket she has had for 15 years we would NEVER dream of taking it away from her, she keeps it in her back pack at school and she feels safe with it
so if you cave in, what would your child experience ...fear....anxioty and that he can't trust you
tell your M.I.L. My kid My house My rules
but you do have to be tactful or you may end up a single parent

Answer 5

Hi there, I have two things to say about "the bossy gramma" situation. If you ask your mother or mother-in-law for her opinion, then she has a right to give you her opinion. Other than that, it is really not her place to tell you what or how you raise your child. Second: I have three grown children, but when they were tiny, two of them sucked their thumbs. Of course I got all kinds of advise about how I should not let them do that. My response always was,"I don't believe it is doing any harm and I'll bet they won't be sucking their thumb when they are 21 years old." Guess what? Neither did. Good luck with bossy gramma and you need to know that you are making the best judgments for YOUR CHILD. Judi S

Answer 6

Grand Parents only have rights to see grandchildren if the parents let them. I made this clear to my in laws on the 4th of July. I`ve been to court on this situation and the judge told the grandparents at the time that unless they could prove the parents unfit then they could only see there grandchildren if we gave them permission. So tell her to step off or you`ll pull the plug for a while.. I did and they learned the hard way about there rights. If your child likes the bear and it helps him to sleep why would you take that away. Tell grandma to POUND SAND UP HER A S S!!!

Answer 7

my 5 year old son sleeps with a teddy bear, a bald eagle and a doggy stuffed animals. tell her to shut up, its not her child and she is not his parent. nor is she ever going to be. tell her that her "parenting tips" are not tips and you dont want to hear it from her or anyone else for that matter. she has no right to butt in like that. i wouldnt let him sleep over at her house until he is 10 and can tell you what goes on there.
oh, and im 26 and i sleep with the teddy bear my boyfriend gave me as a valentines gift.

Answer 8

Absolutely not! He is only two and it is so normal for them to have something to cuddle with. Perhaps your wife should step in on behalf of your little family and tell her mom that her point of view has been heard, but you will raise your child as you wish. This may curb more unwelcomed advice in the future. If she if a good grandma, she should understand.

Answer 9

absolutely not he is still a baby and by taking something away that he has comfort in will cause a whole lot of emotional problems...he is only 2 and he has plenty of time to grow up let them be little for as long as possible because soon he will be 4 and you will have a nightmare on your hands like me...lol.....they were so cute when they were 2

Answer 10

Hecky no.....you're right it probably is a secure thing for him and when he gets tired of "Teddi" he'll let go. As for your mother-in-law I am sure that she is trying to play the granma role....However, I would inform her that while you appreciate her input into your son's llife, that you and your wife have agreed that you are both o.k. with Teddi being a part of your son's bedtime routine. Continue to encourage her involvement with your son but make sure to keep questionable inquiries to a minimum.