I want to introduce adult intimacy toys to the bedroom, my husband thinks that is nasty. How do I introduce them to him?
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2006-07-14 14:49:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No it's not wrong. Rather than using sex toys from the beginning, why not try other things that don't seem as sexual. For instance, you can give each other body massages using the different types of massagers (manual rollers, etc) or even using electric massagers (not vibrators). You could even take a shower together and use a detachable showerhead spray in a sensual way. Once he starts getting comfortable with the different situations and more comfortable with his body, you could start introducing him to more adult/intimate items. Make him appreciate feelings of arousal from what you introduce first, then he may want to reciprocate and see that he was wrong all along.
2006-07-14 14:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by plenoptic_aeon 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is not wrong at all... I have the reversed situation in the past. My wife wudn't want to but after sometime it changes. I wud think men and woman are the same in this aspect. they would like the excitement and some excitement.
As recommneded by most ppl here, start slow and start small... Get him be comfortable with it. And soon, it will be a new ball game.
You husband might be shy about it. Or maybe hiding his inner feeling regarding this. But once you can get him out of it, I am sure all will be alright.
Surely but slowly... Have lots and great fun....
2006-07-14 17:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jack T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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depnds how long you two are married and also make it a smaller toy, dont get anything that would make him feel smaller.... lol hard subject(all pun intended) always be honest with him and talk but you dont need permission to have a toy in the bedroom of a married couple becuase every one has there own intament time with there selves if he doesnt want to play you cant make him but having in a place he knows about and will see occationally will spark somthing, guys are moody just like females there are days that they have more limitation then others. somthing he needs to learn gently is that sex does get a lil boring and its perfectly normal and moral for a married couple to play around and experiment with each other. just be gentle it takes some people a lil more time to get comfortable with the idea. and being gentle means tiptoeing around his ego becuase it is fragile no matter how manly we guys are the bedroom subject is to say the least delicate and we all want to think we satifie
good luck and enjoy each other love.
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2006-07-14 15:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprise your husband by letting him watch you with a toy, nothing to intimidating at first. Have him join in with you-he wont be able to resist. Just keep the lines of communication open about why you want the toys. So many men feel threatened by them, show hi and tell him they are adding to him pleasing you, not replacing him
2006-07-14 15:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you have to introduce things in that you are telling him that you want to keep the sex fresh and exciting. Otherwise men get threatened that you REALLY want two men and the less mature men get judgemental and say things like "you're nasty"
2006-07-14 16:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO IT'S NOT NASTY. IT'S FUN. JUST GO TO THE NASTY STORE AND BUY SOME OF THE HOT LOTIONS AND DON'T TELL HIM. JUST START RUBBING ON. ITS WARM AND RELAXING. MY BOYFRIEND AND I USE TOYS ALL THE TIME. IT BRING FOR FUN INTO IT. TELL HIM NOT TO WORRY JUST IN JOY IT. TELL HIM DON'T KNOCK IT UNTIL HE TRIES IT. IT MIGHT JUST SURPRISE HIM. GOOD LUCK. START WITH SMALL STUFF FIRST, THEN MOVE ON.
2006-07-14 15:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's a great ideal. What happens in your bedroom is your business. Make both of you happy.
2006-07-14 15:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Monica M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way u need to add spice to your sex with your husband!!! never is that nasty makes it more fun lol
2006-07-14 15:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by chas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok if you are willing to let him try new things & that would probably be other women.If you're gonna be open minded it's gotta be wide open.
2006-07-14 15:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By bringing them in one at a time. Take control and show him how it's done! He'll love it once you do it.
2006-07-14 14:57:06 · answer #10 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋