Why do i get upset with my wife every time she trys to talk to me.?

Question

is it me are is it the relationship.

Answer 1

Man, you are carrying some baggage. Find out what's eating you, quick, while she's still in a talking mood. Can you imagine how she feels when her attempts at conversation invoke your wrath? Take care of the woman you love by taking care of yourself. Talk it out with someone who you CAN talk to. but don't wait....this sounds a bit serious.

Answer 2

The "relationship" is just a term for the 2 of you being together. So, NO, it's not the "relationship's" fault. It's yours.

You have to work at it every day. Have you fallen out of love? Do you harbor resentments or old grudges? Why would you get upset if she wants to talk? If you're unhappy, do something about it. You can't expect it to magically fix itself. The more time that passes, the worse off you will both be, and the further you 2 will drift from each other.

Answer 3

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Now don't get upset. I'll talk to you now, hopefully in a way that will not upset you. I understand you don't want to be attacked, and you guard yourself when that is what you perceive.

Realize
ALL relationships need constant work, and both men and woman get lazy, and proud.
When that happens, romance seems to fizzle in increments as each person diminishes little things that mean SO MUCH. That is where (the demon) PRIDE destroys and hurts us.

Often when she is trying to tell you what she needs, she might make the mistake of "blaming" you for not giving it...when that should be presented in a way as to ASK you for what she feels is needed.
Instead of the incriminating "You don't kiss me with passion anymore!"
It would be better to say "I feel I need more passionate kisses with you."
But lets face the truth...NONE of us really are able to express out needs perfectly.
That is why, when she comes to you, to express her concerns, just don't let it get under your skin if it "sounds like" blaming.
You both, need to work on things.
Make a compromise. Agree to renew efforts.
Talk about things MORE often, before they fester bigger than they should be.
Be kind and patient in talking and in listening.
Never feel like you have to give up everything...think more in terms of compromise.

If a woman gets the kisses, and cuddling, and reassurance she needs, she'll be happy to compromise on lesser things.

So when she comes to you, it works really cool to not bristle, rather put your arms around her shoulders, and tell her to go ahead and spill it out, and the two of you will work it out.

I wish you tender love
stw
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Answer 4

Well, if you are like my husband, I know better than to try to tell him anything the minute he gets home, during the news, or during any sports on tv, so maybe her problem is only timing. If this is true for you, lovingly acknowlege her, and say just a sec, after all, nobody likes interruptions when they're focused on something else.

Answer 5

Generally when one gets upset, it's a defensive reaction. Perhaps what she is trying to talk to you about are things that you are already aware of, but don't have the desire or willpower to change, and hearing her repeat what you already know, comes across as nagging.

Answer 6

Well, maybe it's her timing or how she is presenting herself to you. Is she speaking to you in a way that is making you feel defensive? Is she being naggy or persistant? I'm not certain why you are upset, but maybe if you add a bit more details, you'll get a more definitive answer.

Answer 7

maybe you have something to hide from her. or maybe when you get home from work. she don't give you some down time to relax. don't you think you should lesson to her when she tries to take to you. you never know it might me important. i do think you are being rude to her. you need to check yourself. stop !!!! and lesson to what she has to say. sometimes men don't care what the other partner has to say because it not important to when. it's not good and not healthy. for you or her. when you are in a relationship it's impotent to lesson to each other. no matter what. good or bad. so STOP AND LESSON. BE HAPPY NOT SAD. LIFE TO SHORT.

Answer 8

yes... I agree with that lady, because I am in the same situation. Everytime I try to talk to my husband, he is ON AUTO DEFENSIVE MODE! I am sick of it to the point where I dont talk to him anymore, unless I have to... and yes... I am looking else where. I have to stop myself from doing that, but I cant help it, because WOMEN have to communicate, and if your explosive... that would be no different then if everytime you went to have sex with your wife, she closed her legs. Get my point?

Answer 9

I agree with the marriage counseling suggestion. It sounds like communication has broken down between you two.

Answer 10

you may be deppressed... a short temper and an inablity to talk calmly can be a sign of this. talk to your doctor about it! If you are depressed, there are medication sthat can help you manage yoru emotions better.