im 15 and scared i want to keep my baby ! but i dont know how to tell my mom cuz the same thing happen to her now shes barely turning 31yrs any ways umm ive been with the guy for almost 9 months. he work and complans to much hes a jealous guy i think it cuz i not fugly im really atractive yeah what should i do ??
2006-07-14 14:10:54 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
hun your in trouble deep. first why did your mom allow you to date and sleep with a 21 year old man. you know this is wrong but the damage is done. now your preg. and only 15 you going to have to grow up even faster than you have already. its not easy to raise children and hate to say this but those boys that help us get there dont all ways stick around to help us with the children. and he does not sound like a real stand up guy any way to be messing around with a child and dear you are a child. i really hate this for you life is going to be real hard on you. i hope you can handle this... you need to tell your mom and talk with her and i dont mean screaming. because your going to need her in your corner if you going to keep this child. she needs to be your ace in the hole cuz there is now way you can make it on your own. say bye bye to childhood and hello to no sleep, no money, no life, and worries every step of the way. I love my kids and would not trade them for the world, but it is not the easy thing to do. it take two to make it in a household your be the luck on if he stick around and really is a stand up man and dad. i also do not like the fact he is that old.. make me wonder what is wrong with him he had to hook up with a child than someone his age..(so he can controll you) my guess
2006-07-14 14:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your 21-year-old guy could be prosecuted for statutory rape. He should know better, and so should you and your mother. My advice is to RUN not walk away from this guy and hope he doesn't pursue you for paternity rights. A lot of jerks do this for control and not out of any sense of love or duty to the child.
Talk to your mother about the whole situation and first off assure her you are not going to be seeing this man anymore! Admit your mistakes and then talk about where to go from here.
Since you're 15 and in school (I hope??) you cannot raise this child and you can't expect your mother to. If you love this baby you will do what's best for him/her. That is, find a stable, loving home with a mother and a father. A crisis pregnancy center can help you with placement and give you incredible support throughout the pregnancy.
God bless you.
2006-07-14 14:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have gotten pregnant...But I have to say, you need to sit down with your mother and explain to her your situation. Your mother would appreciate that you told her before you were 6 months pregnant. Tell her who the guy is and what happend. Make sure that you get this guys information in case he leaves. I wish you the best of luck and that honesty is the best policy...tell her the truth and tell her your situation from the heart. She will always support you even if she doesn't like what you did...And no matter what yo do, DO NOT have an abortion. Just give the child up for adoption if you have to, but that child deserves a life...
2006-07-14 14:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 11:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 and pregnant. Suggestion. Terminate until you're mature enough to properly care for a child on your own. Make some goals and rules for yourself.
He'll feel trapped and you'll resent him. Even if you don't like school travel the world and stay on birthcontrol until you've made a decision to have a baby and are able to support it on your own if need be. I was always taught to take responsibility for my choices and in the end it will more than likely be JUST YOU!!
Planned Parenthood can help you. I survived off of them for over 10 years for checkups, birthcontrol and advice.!!!
2006-07-14 14:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by lckuconn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom, you will need her help, why were you dating a grown man you are still a child, your boyfriend needs to be arrested. You were taken advantage of, you do not think so right now but in 5 years read this message again and you will agree with me, I have been in the same boat that your are in, i was a mother ate 16 and my child had a child at 14 so i was a grandmother at 32, again i know what i am talking about you were taken advantage of.
2006-07-14 14:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by MYRAJEAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your mom. You should have spoken to her about him maybe she would have told you it was not a good idea for you guys to be together considering you are only 15. Now that you are pregnant abortion is not an option. If you have a pastor or a counselor at school you should talk to him to. Speaking form experience you will need the support of those who care about. And it might not be the guy who got you pregnant.
2006-07-14 14:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by tanforjc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to do what is best for you and your baby. Your mom may be upset at first but she loves you. There are lots of people out there who want a baby. If you dont want to keep it find a wonderful couple to give it a chance in life. You are young I can only imagine what you are going through. Take care of yourself and that baby.
2006-07-14 14:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by CARLIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well once you have that baby. then it won't be a secret anymore. accept the consequences and prepare to grow up much faster then you think.
Let the Father be a Father and help you raise the child. Having an abortion is probably teh only way i can think of. to avoid a pregnancy.
What should you do?. Be a Mother.
2006-07-14 14:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by pinoydj619 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess i cycle lives on. ull have to tell your mom. since shes been through that she will hopefully understand the situation and not freak out cause if not that would be hypocritical. but u are going to have to tell her that u want to keep the baby. oh yeah all guys that have an attractive girlfriend tend to be jealous. they have a reason to be. so take it as well a way of him showing u how much he cares about u and that he doesnt want to lose u to someone else.
2006-07-14 14:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and just tell your mom. She has been there, she knows how hard it is. I am SHOCKED that your mother---having been all that she has been through---would ALLOW you to date a 21 yr old MAN. Your still just a girl.
You do realize that in most states he could be arrested for this....
I would totally ask you to consider adoption. There are so many women out there that can't get pregnant that would make terrific moms. The only way for you to stop this cycle is to get yourself educated!
2006-07-14 14:14:40 · answer #11 · answered by Michelle A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋