... because we owe a mortgage on the house. We have been living now for 2 months in the same home, and it's getting pretty weird. I promised not to file for divorce until house sells, but what do you say??? He keeps talking to my kids, telling them I have a mental problem...What do I do? I'm ready to get him out of our house!!!! He has said he has a buddy that will give him a furnished apartment, rent free, for 6 months. PLEASE ADVISE ME!!!
2006-07-14 14:10:33 · 10 answers · asked by DianneSB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
need to add this: These children are not his!!!
2006-07-14 14:27:33 · update #1
i take it that he is the one who has the mental problem!! he shoudn't fill your kids with such foolishness!! sounds to me that he is jealous for whatever reason of you, i don't know!!! there might be some jealousy in there some where!! i wish i had more suitable answers for you, but i don't!! all i can really do is pray that GOD will help you through this!! take care!!! GOD BE WITH YOU !!! SERIOUSLY!!!
2006-07-14 14:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by TAG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT GOOD what you are doing. I know it.
First dont promise him anything because there is a reason why you are getting divorced and that may be tht things are not necessarily good between you two right? So if you start by giving in to his desires you are going to get trapped.
I was there once. I can sympathize much mjor ethan you will see from this, on what you are going through.
Wouldn't it be easier to just tell him, please can you now move out? Dont do it for him, dont look for hte place and then drive him there!
Much less if he is making life difficult for you.
You will have a problem if you dont get him out now. so tell him its great that he has an furnished apt free for 6 months he can take it now!
And I would definetely seek help so that you have full costudy of yr kids, seeing that he is manipulating their heart and mind he will do a lot more than that if you dont put a stop to it now. Trust me I went thorugh this already.
Get him out of the house , if you can afford it, or if you cant find a roommate to rent a room fromyr house and get him out. Get legal help about the custody issue and go to court to get it granted. Most likely you need to go to yr local court and ask for paperwork to fill out for a restraining order if yr husband gets worse. The judge will grant it to you without a problem.
That means that he cannot be within 500feet of your whereabouts nor your kids, car, house etc.
ANd believe me, you need that if he is getting aggressive bout it.
Don't be thinking of "what if I cant make it alone" etc you certainly will. Do you have health? ok if you do you can do anything.
So you owe mortgage, can you rent the house to someone else that could cover the mortgage?
and you move elsewhere? or can you take a roommate in to come up wit the money for the payment? There are many things you can do,but first comes yr sanity girl! That's what this is all about. You are going insane in the midst of divorce and still together under one roof.
NOthing could be worse than that.
So go ahead and make the changes now, and do not let negative thoughts enter yr mind. You are the mom, you have yr kids, now get the rstraining order from court, and proceed for full custody of yr kids.
I will pray fo ryou.
2006-07-14 14:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd advise him to move out on into the apartment and still pay his share of the mortgage until the house sells! You are only creating animosity between the two of you when you should be in a civil relationship for your children.
2006-07-14 14:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you waiting for? Let him go. Unless you think you can still make it work. If you have children it may be worth one more try. Only you would know that though.
2006-07-14 14:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's got a place to live for free, what's the problem? Tell him to go.
2006-07-14 14:15:56 · answer #5 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to leave and take up on his buddy's offer.
2006-07-14 14:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell me to hit the road and never badmouth you to your kids ever again.
2006-07-14 14:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by seraphikah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get him to take off. You don't need the abuse and him telling your children that you are mentel is just wrong.
2006-07-14 14:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you waiting?? get rid of this jerk!
the kids will get over it.
go to dontdatehimgirl.com and post him up !
2006-07-14 14:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to leave
2006-07-14 14:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋