I'm Bisexual and I've been with more girls than guys. SO I'm thinking about becoming a Lesbian. But I don't know how to ask a girl out or even become there friend. What do I talk to that person about? Or how do I know what to do when I want to talk to a Girl.
Girls always come to me. Their the ones that make the first move. So now it's my turn to do it. What do I say to a Girl or to become their friend or whatever?
2006-07-14 13:28:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I feel your struggle, I am going through the same thing. I used to be bi, and now I am a lesbian and I find it hard at times, especially when I go out. I'm used to people coming to me, but now it seems the tables have turned and I don't know what to do.
http://www.glnh.org/index2.html
Try talking to them, they can be real helpful to you, especially at a time like this. It can be hard to fit in, it was for before I left for school. But now I go to an all girls college and most of the girls there are openly gay and it makes it a lot easier, so it depends on your location.
Hope this helped, anytime you want to talk, message or im me.
And I didn't "at will" lose my "fancy" in guys. I have always been a lesbian, but I lived many years in denial. When I tried to come out the first time, I was 14, I got horrible reactions and it destroyed me. In doing that, I destroyed a relationship I had with a very loving girl during high school. After she left and I realized what I'd done, I thought about what it might do to my mom if she knew, so that's why I told her I was bisexual, because I thought it would be more acceptable to her. I don't regret it, because at least it opened her up to the idea, I really don't think she would accept now if she hadn't thought I was bi for 4 years.
2006-07-14 13:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to come off like a bisexual b*tch here, but this is just about one of the stupidest and most irritatingly offensive things I've ever heard.
If you're really bi, then it doesn't matter if you date a man or a woman. You'll always be bi because it is an essential, inextricable, and unchanging part of your nature, a fundamental part of your self-hood.
Telling people you are a lesbian when you're bi is a lie, you might as well start telling people that you're black or you're jewish while you're at it. Why on earth would you lie about who and what you are? Why would you want to decieve the people around you? That just about the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
And if you're really not bisexual, but actually a lesbian, it's not like that is something that develops over time. It doesn't grow on you like some kind of fungus. You would have been a lesbian all along. If that is the case, then I feel sorry for you.
2006-07-14 14:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are really a bisexual you cannot "turn into" a lesbian. If a girl who is bi falls in love with a girl and they are together for life she is still bisexual, she doesn't turn into a lesbian. Same thing if a bi girl loves and marries a man, she doesn't turn straight, she is still always going to be bisexual. Get your facts straight. It's not a choice. I don't want that myth to go around.
2006-07-14 17:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have considered a range of of those with that similar reaction. in a large number of situations they assume that because the boy is bisexual he's in all likelihood a sex hoarder or a transsexual (Which some human beings locate revolting) yet I, in my opinion, locate bisexual boys to be a lot extra solid and pleasing. On my part of the tale although, human beings imagine that myself being bisexual should be revolting even as i'm a woman, so possibly this is in simple terms the guy?
2016-10-14 11:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be bi OR be a lesbian? No, I'm serious! Can you, at will, lose the ability to like/fancy guys?
As for how to talk to women - the best advice is to think on how they talk to you when they make their moves.
2006-07-14 13:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, all you have to do is talk....flirt....you DON'T have to be the "pursuer". Many women enjoy being the pursuing person, other may appreciate assertiveness. It all depends on the situation and the girl in question. Just talk like you would to anyone else and go with the flow.
2006-07-14 13:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by scorp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, if it's your turn......take your turn girlfriend. If ya wanna go out with a girl, just tell her. What's the worst that could happen? She could say....no? Big deal! Go find another hoe. Just go for it! Be a lezbo.
2006-07-14 14:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.....sounds to me like your holding back who you really are.......if you've already been with girl's.....tell me what did you say to them ? sound's like your just a bit nervous ,that will past
2006-07-15 01:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by raven jack. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please stay Bi, you have no idea how happy just the thought of bi girls makes guys like me
2006-07-14 13:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋