Gay people: Do you love Christians?

Question

Tell us in your own words how you really feel about Christians who accept you as a person, but detest what you do in your own bedrooms behind closed doors?

Does that still make you feel like you're being judged?

Thanks, KingsKing....well said.

Answer 1

The Christians I know accept all of me and all of all people -- including what happens in the bedroom.

United Church of Christ, Most Episcopalians, Most ELCA members, many United Methodists, United Presbyterians and Northern Baptists. Some Dutch Reform, and many, many Roman Catholics (though few RC Clergy), Metropolitan Community Church members, most if not all New England Congregationalists, United Brethern, Unitarians, etc.

Do not confuse FUNDAMENTALIST Christianity, with Christianity. Fundamentalists hate gays -- they may say they love you but hate your "sin" -- but frankly, as someone who was a fundamentalist (though I never agreed on some issues) they hate you. Rhetoric is rhetoric -- listen to what they say about the PEOPLE who are gay when they don't think anyone can hear them who doesn't agree -- it will open y our eyes, though I'm sorry to say it.

I personally believe that fundamentalism is a different and very dangerous religion. We have seen what allowing the fundamentalists in Islam to take over has done to some countries that have that faith -- why do we think allowing the fundamentalists in Christianity to take over will work better? It won't, and the corpses will litter the streets (IMHO) -- just as people like Rushdoony and North and D. James Kennedy wanted/want. Read Rushdoony's book, Principles of Divine Law some time. Then add up the number of Americans he would have stoned to death if he could have.

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Reynolds Jones
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Answer 2

I'm agnostic. If you can accept the fact that your religion is right for YOU, and that there is nothing you can show me that makes it "better" than any other religion, then I can live with the fact that you assume certain things. Once you realize this, it will color your actions; if there's nothing inherently better about your views (except for you in that they're yours), then you can't make law and policy based solely on them.
Also, if it is indeed behind closed doors, I'd point out the assumption on your part. You have no idea what's going on behind closed doors; they're closed!

I think we would probably have issues being good friends if you sincerely believe I'm going to hell (which I understand to be part of your personal beliefs), but I could anyways get along with you professionally or whatever.

Answer 3

It depends, my mom is Christian, and she conflicts about a lot of things. She believes that being gay is not a choice, but she says gay sex is a sin. She doesn't judge me, though, and she still loves me. I meet a lot of religious people, especially since I live on campus at school. Some of them are very bigoted in their opinions, while others will say "I don't agree with it, but I won't judge you" and then they treat me just like they did before they knew.
Does it make me feel like I'm being judged? No, not really. Not everybody is going to agree with everything you do 100%. I don't see it as a gay/straight issue, I just see it as someone not agreeing with who you date, or are attracted to. I mean, personally I think green and blue ketchup are an abomination to food service (future chef here) but I don't judge against people who buy and eat it. It just wouldn;t make sense.

Answer 4

I try to avoid Christians as much as possible. Anyone who believes that, no matter what I do or how good of a person I am I'm going to burn in Hell for who I choose lo love, isn't really somene worth knowing.

I DO now a lot of Christians who believe that there's more than one way to get to the store--Buddhism is a path to God, just as much as Ywipi or Christianity or Islam. I love Christians who follow, in my book, the way Christ was and turn away from the dogma and judgement that is in so many churches today.

Answer 5

First off not all Christians are like that. I am gay and I still go to church. I am trying to become a member of the United Church of Christ. I have never met a nicer group of people.

I have no problem with people that accept me as a person as long as they aren't trying to impose the government into my bedroom.

Answer 6

I don't mind what other people think of me, regardless of their religious beliefs. I don't associate with people who do not have the same values and outlook on life as I do.

I do deeply resent anyone trying to force their religious views or scripture on me. I don't have room for their gods and goddesses in my life. Raised a Christian, it became apparent to me that faith would play no part in my life. I firmly believe when I die I'll just cease to exist, and that will be it.

I don't need to argue with anyone about my sexuality, my lack of religion, or any other aspect of who I am. I also do not need those that do not agree with me knocking on my door offering to bring their faith to me and so on.

Live and let live is my most important rule. I will not come into your church and disrupt the service. I don't expect you to turn up on my doorstep uninvited and start spouting gospel at me.

It is highly unlikely (except in a work situation) that I would spend time with any Christian that did not share my view that gays and lesbians don't need acceptance, or tolerance. They demand and deserve respect and equal rights, including the 1049 federal rights currently denied them because civil marriage is not allowed for gay couples; and if that concept is not something a Christian grasps, then we are not going out for a beer after work!

Answer 7

The people that say they "speak for God" and "know what he thinks" about this issue are not true Christians, so I try to ignore them or educate them.

True Christian know God's love... and I like to think sense of humor too. I'm bi and a Christian. I know God loves me.

Plus there is so much more to love then what goes on in the bedroom, it's a meaningful loving relationship. Only God will judge me, even then I plan on talking to the guy... or girl.

:-)~

Answer 8

I was bi since I first had sexual feelings. Then I believed in Jesus. I whole heartedly believe you shouldn't throw a group of people together and judge them. Its prejudice. Are you racist, too, you who have stated that you don't like Christians? I live without the label of bi, and I am treated like a bigot because I have the label of Christian. Man, can't we see each other as individuals instead of what we are labeled? Can't we just be open minded to other peoples lives and situations?

Answer 9

Hey I belong to a fairly progressive church that is still struggling with how it feels about gay members, especially if they were to be in leadership roles. But we all talk about this openly and with respect for each other. There are a couple of people who are so darn stubborn, I find it frustrating. But I look at those people and at all the other things they do to contribute to the life of the community, and I have to love them.

Answer 10

I only feel judged... if they judge me. They can think whatever they want, but if they express those opinions to me, without me asking them, The conversatin will be very short. I will open my arms to anyone, if they are not offensive.

I enjoy conversation with different opinions as long as it is RESPECTFUL. Respect is the key. If a Christian (or a baptist or muslim or anyone else) shows me respect I will show it back, if they do not, then I don;t have time for them. Very simple.