my boyfriends mother is a crazy person she sometimes gets high. she does like any of his girlfriends she has went off on me. I am a good person an have not done anything wrong to her just because me an her son have problems. he says she will not be allowed at our house when we move together but how do i get get around her an live happy with him? She is ruiening my life .
2006-07-14 12:56:16 · 6 answers · asked by christina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I can sympathize completely with you. I have the worst mother in law anybody could ever wish for. And with lots of money which makes her now unstoppable. Married a 45yr old guy and she is nearly 80yrs old. YOu want totalk crazy? I have the example of my mother in law.
I try never to go to her house, attend her events or even by coincidence see her. I have had my life completely ruined in the past because of her too. However I managed to get my husband , her son, to realize what she's like and he himself do not want to see her much either. But we do not live with her, thank God!
Its better if you rent a place without her! Yr own place asap pls so you can have a life and some sanity.
Get the money from somewhere, a relative, granpa, a sister whoever and get it so you can move to yr own place you and your boyfriend and leave the mom behind. Forget her. Its not worth even thinking more of her.
Just know what you are getting into if you were to marry him, you already know what his mother is like and that won't change.
Hopefully your bf realizes what is happening and is with you entirely.
Just don't bet that he will drop all for you in a second. After all she's his mom.
There are times when I just hve to bite the bullet too. Myhusband wants to go t o the woman's house I cant say no , he can go alone and he does. Its just on important days and events taht gets tough. I dont want to impose on myhusband but I dont like this woman at all, his mother. ANd neither does she like me. So on that note we leave it at that and don't see each other.
I dont like her bc my father in law was a sweet and noble man, who died just 2yrs ago and this wench had already lined up a half her age guy from England to marry just shortly after my father in law died. She took all the money, gave nothing to his kids and myhusband who does a lot and did for them, and then married without any respect to anything in my opinion.
They don't change, they get worse, so my advice if you have problems with this guy try to get out of it. That is really the best advice I can give you from my heart so you dont suffer later a lot more. Bad mother in laws will break yr heart , stump on it and throw you to the dogs. Its not worth it belive me. I've been married for 24yrs.
And like I said, it only got worse.
So choose a new mother in law,dear. REally.
Do you or must you stick with settling for half or less than what you are worth?
nope you dont.
Choose something else and knwo youare worth a lot!
2006-07-14 13:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christina... run like hell babe! Ironicly I have a niece who I think has the same problem, but she won't hardly ever talk to me anymore because b/f know I despise him & his cracked out family and he wouldn't allow us to talk I'm sure. I love my niece & miss how close we used to be but I think she feels like she has to babysit this guy all the time and protect him from his moms evil influence. Fact is if he were any type of man in the first place he'd have a job and you guys would'nt be living with "mommy dearest". Lose that zero honey!
2006-07-14 20:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jim's redheaded girly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is hard, most people think that it is easy to live with someone and do nothing with that person's family, but it is almost impossible.
may be you can have a nice chat with her and see if there is any way to get along, or ask her son to have a chat with her mom and let you know what is that she does not like about you...
good luck
2006-07-14 20:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only because you let her. Avoid her, obviously, and if you can't, you do not have to allow her to treat you badly. That does not mean yell at her or fight with her. Be the bigger person. Also, your bf needs to stand up and tell her that he doesn't want to have to choose between you, but if he has to, he will choose you. That worked for my hubby and me.
2006-07-14 20:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by Waferette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few suggestions:
RUN
Don't move in with him
RUN
RUN
This woman will eventually sabatoge your relationship...especially is she's smoking juju! Think about it, she tells you that if you move in with her son that you will no longer be welcome at her house...yet, here she is a grown woman still smoking dope! Please girl, think about what you could potentially be getting yourself into. I wouldn't move in with him if you are having problems like you say...work on the core issues first.
Good Luck.
2006-07-14 20:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by fourcolor4u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make him happy, avoid her at all costs, and if you are unfortunate enough to be around her, be so sweet it kills her.
If you are really nice to her and she acts like a witch, he will be mad at her.
Been thru this with my Hubby, and it really does work.
2006-07-14 20:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by ricksliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋