Would it look bad if I go all out with my second marriage? We are planning our wedding, but this is both of our second marriages. We are both catholic, so we got married by church with our first partners. Meaning we can't go by church no more. Just a simple judge marriage. Would it look bad if we do a big wedding due to that it's our second marriage?
2006-07-14 12:46:59 · 20 answers · asked by yo_010180 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
honest answers only please.
2006-07-14 12:47:25 · update #1
I did, but just be ready for SOMEBODY to think you shouldn't have "gone all out". I say DO what makes YOU happy girl! And congrats!
2006-07-14 12:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok to have a relatively lavish wedding the second time around, but there are a few things that bug me personally about brides and second weddings:
1. I recommend not wearing a traditional, big, poofy, white dress with a long train. My sister-in-law did this for her second wedding (she'd had two kids by this time) and it just looked silly. White ok, but maybe a sleek, simple silk dress. Long ok, but no train. Long veil no, fingertip veil, maybe. A little modesty with the dress goes a long way when you've done this once before.
2. FYI, you don't have to have just a 'simple judge marriage.' I've had friends married at the Four Seasons by a judge. It's the setting that will dictate the level 'all out' you go to.
3. Maybe some of the traditional stuff goes out the window, like the bouquet toss, bridal party dance, garter toss, etc. Invest in fabulous food, great drink and excellent music. Surround yourself with the people you love. And remember that you have every right to celebrate this new love - just make sure you communicate appropriate respect for your first one!
2006-07-14 19:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Trinaunz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am Catholic and my first marriage didn't work out. When My present husband and I wanted to get married, we had a semi formal wedding. We went to a chapel. And had a really nice reception. I don't think you should wear white. But if you are in love and would like a big wedding with all the trimmings, go for it. It is your life, and it is the day that you are both committing legally to each other do as you please and enjoy being in love.
2006-07-14 19:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to financially why not. Just because it is a second marriage and your religious beliefs deny a marriage happening again within god's eyes does not mean you have to have a small quiet wedding the second time around. Go ahead and enjoy, but if there were children involved don't forget about them and there family including inviting your ex's. you all should be able to be cordial for the children. Good luck and best wishes !!
2006-07-14 19:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by theresa l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If u went all out on the first one go all out on the second one too. You guys both made mistakes in your previous marriages but trying to revrese your mistake by finding true love again and marrying someone else. This wedding shud be as special...maybe even more special than the first one. Go all out!!
2006-07-14 19:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, yes..it would look bad, especially since you both claim to be catholic. Soyou already know your answer. Why not annul your first unions and get married in the church? Then you will be able to do a fancier wedding than just a judge.
2006-07-14 20:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I are each in our second marriage (20 years together now!). We did it up big, with church wedding, big reception. About the only thing we didn't do was register for gifts, since we each had everything that "newlyweds" would need.
Go for it. May it be your LAST wedding.
2006-07-14 20:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it definitely wouldn't look bad if you went all out. Stuff happens, just because the first marrige didn't work well doesn't mean this one will do the same. If I was in your same situation, and I thought I'd be with this person forever, I'd make it the best wedding ever. Good luck to you both!!
2006-07-14 19:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by khiadabomb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what pleases you.
Hopefully this new marriage will work out perfectly for you and that hope alone is certainly something that should be celebrated.
Don't let past mistakes burden you if they do not have to. Look forward not back
As far as church is concerned...you can still go to church, and if it is important to you, you certainly should go.
2006-07-14 19:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by EdmondDoc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if this one is "for real" and "for keeps", I say yes. I've seen too many second (and third) weddings that were totally blase. The tip off is the carrot cake. If you have carrot cake at your wedding, you just don't have the passion or commitment for your new marriage.
2006-07-14 19:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by trixwagen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and have a big wedding. Ask a non-denominational pastor to officiate if you want. Have a garden wedding if you want. Make sure you have fun.
2006-07-14 19:56:15 · answer #11 · answered by coolmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋