2006-07-14 12:31:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Could be lots of reasons, but highest on that list could be why buy the cow when the milk is free. Why should he marry you when he can have all the privileges of married life, without any of the responsibilities. He doesn't have to put you on his insurance. If anything happens to you he doesn't have to take financial responsibilty. He doesn't have to bring you home from a hospital and take care of you should you have some major illness.
He just might be afraid of commitment.
You could ask him why he is so shy of making the marriage commitment. Good Luck.
2006-07-14 12:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better question: Why the hell are you wasting you life waiting for him. You should have resolved this 4 years and a few kids ago. Get hitched or get on with your life. Now here's the thing. In the eyes of your state, you are probably already married. In most states, if you live under the same roof for 7 years as man and wife, regardless of ceremony, you are married. Tell him that and get the Justice of the Peace to do it quick. He probably isn't going anywhere, he probably just hates the idea of the ceremony, dress, ring, etc. Ease his fears and say you will take him as a husband any way he wants for now. Do the fancy thing later. Not like you've been holding family back or anything. Sounds like you have a family, just get it done.
2006-07-14 12:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks he doesn't have to. After all you've been there for eight years. If you lived in California, you'd ALREADY be married by law. Some men just don't do things they feel is not a requirement. If it was a requirement, then he'd know that in order to keep you he has to put a ring on your finger and make that move.
2006-07-14 12:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, because he doesnt want to. You should have figured this out after the first baby was born.
Sound like he is commitmentphobic...no RING, no STRINGS!!!
Wake up girlfriend...I hope you went to school and got an education because it sounds like you are headed for single parenthood.
If your man hasn't realized by now that he loves you enough to marry you, then I would step outside of the box and look inside and assess the situation.
2006-07-14 12:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by fourcolor4u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH mY GOd . Sounds just like me. Me and my man made 8 years this past June. I have a five year old and one on the way. Everytime our anniversary comes around I swear hes gonna pop the quetion but every anniversary comes and every anniversary goes and no ring. Girl I guess we just don't have that guy who believes in marriage. I always ask him when and he just goes around the question like giving lame *** excuses. I don't know hopefully we won't have to wait too long. Good luck!!!
2006-07-14 12:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by whos_tat_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's his incentive? He's already getting sex, he has a family, he has a place to live with his family.... Figure out what the possible arguments are for getting married--tax breaks perhaps--and start making hints about them. But I think it's going to be a hard sell.
2006-07-14 12:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by Robin W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of someone you like. "Just like" not love.....not deep love. Not committed love. Now, imagine you allowed yourself to have two children with "that" person....even moved in with them. Oh yea, and you trust them because well, you've known them for eight years. Now, let's say he asks you...."why won't you marry me, afterall we have two children and have known eachother for 8 years. Why not get married?" In there friend is your answer. The difference between just being "in like" and "in love" just might be marriage. Don't kid yourself either, thousands upon thousands of people who "just like" eachother get married everyday too......so, it may work if you can get him to get on board with making you his wife. Still, it is a heartache when one realizes he/she may be the only one "in love" in a relationship.
2006-07-14 12:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by ktltel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear the saying: Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
2006-07-14 12:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by staygold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he don't want to marry you because he don't want to be a marry man it changes every thing,maybe he feels that he's not going to do the things that he use to do when he was not marry.
i think that you should talk to him and see how he feels.
2006-07-14 12:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by carmen b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably one of the people that has problems with making the commitment.
2006-07-14 12:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by Norm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋