My best friend lied to her fiance and told him that she was a virgin, they have been going out for about a year. She has had a lot of sexual partners and word got back to him by her ex, whom she had sex with. He left a message telling me everything he has heard and wants to know if there is any truth. Do you think it will be wrong to let him know the TRUTH, or do you think it will be backstabbing my friend?
2006-07-14 12:30:49 · 20 answers · asked by uglyvanity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that you should talk to your friend and let her know that the guy has called you and wants to know the truth. You should encourage yoru friend to tell her fiancee the truth on her own, it would be way better than you telling her.
2006-07-14 12:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
It's up to your friend to tell him the truth, not you. Tell your friend about the message her fiance left with you, and let her handle it. Urge her to tell him the truth if you believe she should -- but don't get more involved than that.
If the fiance insists on an answer from you, just say it's none of your business and he should talk to her about it. Don't lie; just politely and firmly let him know it's not something you care to discuss.
2006-07-14 12:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by B D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her fiancee asks again, tell him that you don't know all the details about the personal lives of your friends, and that if he has any concerns, he should talk to her in person. Please tell your friend that her fiancee has asked, and that she needs to talk to him herself. You can support her and encourage her to come clean, but don't get in the middle of it. (If, however, she continues to mislead him, you should tell him the truth--it would be a tragedy if they got married and he ended up with an STD she was unaware she had contracted from a previous partner.)
2006-07-14 14:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by alcachofita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it's hard to (I know!!), the best thing to do in these situations is to stay out of it. What I would do is tell him that you'd rather not get involved and ask him to respect that as she is your best friend. If you tell him, she will find out and she will be angry. Eventually the truth will come out and you will be relieved that it wasn't you who told him. No good will come out of you telling him.
2006-07-14 12:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 09:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her fiance know that you are not going to discuss your friend with him at all, and you are not going to confirm or deny any rumors. Simple as that. That is how a friend behaves. I have a saying for that: "It's not mine to tell." Meaning, I tell no ones' secrets to anybody. It is completely up to her to do what she is going to do.
2006-07-14 12:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Waferette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your problem, it's your friend's. Tell her she needs to talk with her fiance and be honest if she loves him. He may feel that he can no longer marry her. Don't tell the fiance anything, it's not your job.
2006-07-14 12:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by Rebekah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NOT under ANY circumstances get involved in this! She needs to come clean about this with him, not you. You could have a chat with her about speaking with him on the matter... but people who are engaged are supposed to be honest with each other... they allegedly want to get married and share their lives but SHE can't even be honest about her sexuality??? It is what it is and she can't change it... it doesn;t mean that she HAS to have sex with HIM until she gets married if she chooses not to... but what a stupid thing to lie about.
2006-07-14 12:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by littlearthquake3355 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's your friend's relationship, and he should have respected the sanctity of what they had by keeping it to the two of them....
You can urge BOTH of them (your friend and her man) to respect each other by telling the truth and leaving everyone else out of it...
2006-07-14 12:33:33 · answer #9 · answered by FavoredbyU 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your place to tell him, actually. Let him know that if he wants to know something, he should ask her. You're not the middleman... there is no middle man in a relationship.
2006-07-14 12:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by Becky Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋