This person always complains about everything I do and never seems to be happy about anything. I try going out of my way and honestly ..... I am at my wits end. I have to live with this person and I want him to be happy, but nothing I do seems to work.....
2006-07-14 12:29:34 · 14 answers · asked by Bluewillow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself... just ignore him...
2006-07-14 12:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by samz_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are usually negative about things when they either want you to feel sorry for them and get attention, or they are afraid the outcome will be negative and don't want to be disappointed by being positive. So honestly to change this what I would do is just not to give them a reaction at all, don't be sympathetic, don't give them the attention. And if you haven't yet, talk to the person and tell them that you don't want to be around the negative attitude, life is life, and you for the most part create your own problems, so he will have to figure it out on his own that being negative about them doesn't make them any better.
2006-07-14 13:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, do NOT change who you are for anyone!
If you are typically a happy person, then stay that way and don't let anyone get the best of you by pushing your buttons.
Some people are just wired differently and are very negative and cynical which can mean that they are unhappy with themselves therefore they take out their frustrations on others. That my friend, is called jealousy and intimidation!
So many people are jealous of others because they have a perky personality and they just wish they could be like that.
2006-07-14 12:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by fourcolor4u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend just like that .I asked him does complaining all the time make him happy? He said yes. Some people are just not happy with themselves and take their frustrations out on everyone else.Do not take it personally
2006-07-14 12:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Badmamajama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he's your father or brother and you are under age you don't have to live with him. No matter how hard you try this person is having a negative affect on you. He is hindering your success in life and you need to get away from him.
2006-07-14 12:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Robin W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That person is not happy with him self . And is jealous if you are right about anything and finds a way to make you unhappy.
if he keeps it up , you will be so tired and frustrated by his attitude you won't want to live with him.
These type of people are called and known as,,"Rude, crude, with a bad attitude".
Bad news...
2006-07-14 12:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they cannot see and don't want to see the good side of things because they ENJOY misery. You might not believe it but some people do. If it is ALL the time, then you really need to go. Nothing you say or do will ever change his mood.
2006-07-14 12:38:30 · answer #7 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had same problem with man i was in love until it got to a point we used to be in same place not talk we used to be on chat but not talk it turns out he was feeling guilty hes grown up in gangs he used to do it to distance himself from me so i couldnt get hurt
finally i told him i would always be there for him but i wished to be treated good
2006-07-14 12:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you HAVE to live with this person?
He is obviously unhappy and you do not want to catch this, do you?
Why don't you just let go and see other people?
2006-07-14 12:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from that person. It sounds like you do not need this persons negative vibes.
2006-07-14 12:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by MARK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋