I have been with my partner for 5 years. We have our own house, both have jobs and have no debt (except our mortgage) We both love each other very much. We have a three year old daughter (who was planned) whom we both love dearly. After 2 years of trying I am now pregnant with our second child.
My question is am I an idiot/imature/had a booboo/ignorant or any of the other things stated in the answer to "why do people get prgnant early?" just because I had fell pregnant when I was 19?
Is age so important on its own or should we look at the bigger picture to find out the circumstances before we judge?
2006-07-14 12:21:43 · 9 answers · asked by ~angel~ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
why the hell should we? we are happy as we are. Because you believe in marrage dosent mean others have to. What gives you the right to judge? I asked for answers not more questions!
2006-07-14 12:27:53 · update #1
as long as ready have the baby at any age.
2006-07-14 13:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the simple fact that society has made the stereotype of a teen mother; on welfare, single, uneducated, unloving parents, ignorance, etc. I've been wondering the same thing. It's very sad that women like us get judged because of our ages when we got pregnant. I said in another question I'm 20 with a 1 1/2 year old and a 2 1/2 year old, still with their father and have been for nearly 4 years. I've never been on welfare, finished high school, I'm going back to college, and I finished high school. I remember my grandparents were 18 and 20 when they had their first child. It wasn't such a big deal then. Why should it be now?
2006-07-14 19:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think we should look at the circumstances because we judge about age. I was 18 when I got pregnant, but we knew we would be okay, although he was an Accident! lol
now about the marriage thing, you right. my boyfriend and I aren't married, although I call him my husband lol since we have been together for so long, We could get married but we don't think its a big deal. I mean why do we have to have a piece of paper to tell us that we are commented to each other and that we love each other. Plus we have been together more then most of our friends that got married!!
2006-07-14 19:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only problem with girls getting pregnant at too young an age is whether they are mature enough to handle it and to raise a child, other than that I am guessing age doesn't matter, but I would rather see an adult who is fully capable of holding down a full time job, paying her bills, owning up to all her responsibilities have a baby than a 14 or 15 year old girl still in school
2006-07-14 19:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kryztal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We need to address each case individually.But as a whole it would be great if we would teach our kids that we know sex is going to happen , but protection is a must.I tell my son that this is the easiest time of his life and he should enjoy it.Once you have kids the partying is over and the bills pile up.Its hard work from there - especially if your paying child support.I also tell him there is nothing better than kids once your marriage is strong (about 3yrs) Bottom line = Talk to your kids.
2006-07-14 19:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is go with your heart...if your happy and your husband/family is happy....age shouldn't be an issue...i am twenty and trying to concieve since i was 19 in fact...i'm sure it's what i want...but it's not going to keep me from doing other things with my life as well....e.g . i'm an artist and i've been taking art classes now for a while at my local college....so in my opinion as young as you are...even though you have children...you can do anything! And the fact that you have children is just an added bonus....so in short...no age shouldn't be an issue
2006-07-14 19:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i believe they is no age limit to what you are saying. seems to me that you have done it the proper way, had a job, house, husband(or significant other for long period of time) before having kids and i believe that is far more important then how old you are. if you were only 19, jobless, living at home, and the father wasn't around, then yes THAT would be wrong! but praise for you for having your life straight before bringing another life into this world.
2006-07-14 19:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by luvshorses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been together for 5 years, you're going on to your second kid....Why the hell aren't you two married? And why the hell would you plan a pregnancy if you're not married?
2006-07-14 19:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by chemicalimbalance000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl please................
obviously you are doing something right, the two of you have been together for 5 years. this is your second child together not a one night stand. screw em!
good luck and god bless!
2006-07-14 19:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by cindy loo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋