so my mom is a very protective person...ahe wont let me go out with my guy friends or my girl friends... she wont let me talk 2 guys on the phone,,u could say she is really not a normal mom but the problem is i dont know how 2 tell her in a very patient way that im old enough and can take care of myself by the way im16.
2006-07-14 12:13:56 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just do Your thing... You can't change Her... just live Your Life as best as You can while You're living under her roof.
2006-07-14 12:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by M L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can tell, she's been there. You're mom is normal. She just doesn't want you to get into trouble. The way to tell her that you can take care of yourself is to be responsible around her. Gaining trust by doing is probably her gauge of whether or not you are ready. In your mom's eyes, you will always be her little girl. She probably trusts you but not those around you. Write to her. Tell her how much you appreciate all she's done for you. Then, tell her very politely how you feel and promise that you won't get into trouble...and make good your promise!!
Good luck. My mom was the same with me...and sometimes, I look back and actually thank my lucky stars that she was that way.
2006-07-14 12:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by san2m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I feel bad for you because I'm 14 people usually tell me my mom is 2 nice and I'm a spoiled brat but my best friend has the same problem only she's 14. This worked for us so hopefully it will work 4 u have your best friend's mom talk 2 your mom and I hopefully that should loose her up if not alot a little
2006-07-14 12:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by phillyhottie000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom WAS the exact same way! All you have to do is GRADUALLY start opening up to her, telling her how your day was etc. By doing this you will eventually build a VERY strong relationship with her as I did and she will start trusting you alot more. After that, you then tell her how much you wish that you could communicate with your friends more since it's summer and school's out. She should respect the fact that you are ASKING instead of SNEEKING and should grant you your wish! Good Luck!
2006-07-14 12:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by BlessedAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh does this sound like a normal relationship, look at the stats of non married mothers, the high amount of drug available.
my daughter was 16 when I allowed her to fly, she was excited, but now I am a grandfather, she is the mother of a 10 year old right now, and still not married.
Give it time allow trust to grow and do not be ashamed that she cares, and Loves you.
The best you can do is learn to trust her judgment.
Be well and be cheerful, it is only for a season.
2006-07-14 12:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by woobywoodpecker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is just protecting you and its only natural to do that as a mother but yes you do need to talk to her.
try asking her if she loves you and then if she trusts you...then ask her how you can prove your responsible and able to take responsibility for your actions if she wont let you prove it to her?
don't be angry at her...my parents were like this with me at 18! so i know how you feel...I'm 28 now and look back on it and know why they were scared, the world is getting worse and you need to be able to deal with it. she sounds scared to let you grow up and that if you stay by her side nothing will go wrong. you need to earn her trust and gain her comfort level with you...try having a phone called to a friend or guy for 10 Min's and hang up at 10 Min's prove you are responsible and that you obey her rules as its her house, then try having a friend or guy friend come over and study or watch a movie in full view of your mother...ie in the living room or den with doors open, or try asking to go to the Park or mall where ever but agree a set time and don't push for more time as she will close off and it will be a no go zone!...hope this help!
2006-07-14 12:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by GreenQuartz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mom myself and I also remember being sixteen. At your period in my life I also pushed for freedom. My mom was kind of the same as yours... protective and all. I felt that she didn't trust me... and on some issues she shouldn't have. Just be patient with your mom. As hard as it may be for you... she is having to let go of something that she has invested a lot of love in. She doesn't want to see you hurt. Make good choices. If you believe in God. Pray. If not, I will pray for you.
2006-07-14 12:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell her all you want, she's not going to fall for it. She does it because she loves you and wants the best for you. One of these days, when you look back and see that 3 or 4 of your current friends have 5 year old kids with no daddy and no future at 22 while you are graduating college, you might thank her.
2006-07-14 12:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her Mom, Im 16 and I'm Old enough to talk on the phone with girls and boys, I hope u understand what im saying .
2006-07-14 12:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. If she still is over protective, make a deal with her or something. Tell her that sweet 16 is a very special for a girl, that's when she's truly matured. If she's still like thatm prove it to her you're responsible enough.
2006-07-14 12:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight foward dont beat around the bush and if she has a problem with that then oh well. I did it to my father and mother at the age of 16 just stand your ground and dont back down. Be a man not a b*tch.
2006-07-14 12:19:49 · answer #11 · answered by ZigZag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋