i like this guy and we've been going out since march. we are really close and he thinks he knows everything about me.... but wht he doesnt know may hurt him the most... im bisexual... how should i tell him?
2006-07-14 11:48:42 · 9 answers · asked by littlegreekgirl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just be up front. It can't hurt him any worse then him finding out the hard way.
Just tell him, what ever you do don't cheat on him with a girl. He wouldn't be able to recover from that one.
2006-07-14 11:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by jwkrebs07 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say that this should not be an issue if it is discussed openly with ur guy - If u are someone and the relationship involves monogamy then it is not a problem - If u do not want to have a threesome or the like with ur guy and another girl then u need to not make him feel this is what u want by telling him - I believe u want to discuss this becuase u do not want him to be shocked or hurt if after him u go to a girl -- but this is a dynamic that ur relationship may not have
So I would say tell him about ur life and be open and honest - but the biggest issue with bisexuality is misperception - if u want an open relationship then disucss it but most likely this relationship will not last - What do u want from the relationship ??
If he cares about u it should not matter - unless he is insecure or jealous about such a lifestyle - if he is religious or similiar he may not accept it but U HAVE to live ur life for urself no one else and u will not be happy unless u fully disclose this
I know many lesbian friends who deal with this issue with girls they meet and bisexuality has been closeted and lied and disguised so it is up to u - u know the relationship more but I WOULD SAY DO NOT START MAKING OUT WITH A GIRL TO TELL HIM -- DO NOT HAVE A THREESOME AND TELL -- Be open and honest with him and yourself and what is meant to happen will happen
2006-07-14 19:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about him. Ask him what he thinks about people who are bisexual. Get his view on the subject and ask him if he would ever date someone who is bisexual. That way you will know where you stand and how to approach your sexuality with him further. If you are really into this guy you may want to consider dedicating yourself to only him. If so some things are better left untold. What you have done in the past should not be a factor in your present relationship unless you exposed yourself to things that could harm the person that you are with now. You don't have to tell him that you are into girls too unless you want to go out with girls while you go out with him. You never know...he may be willing to share. I have been in some pretty strangely open relationships in the past and my present lover doesn't know and doesn't need to know about them. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
2006-07-14 18:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by SouthernBelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should it hurt him? Haven't you been committed to him these last 3-4 months? Isn't that going to continue?
Just tell him to his face - "Honey, I really like you but there's something you don't know about me - I'm Bi. Not that I'm planning to ditch you for a girl or play you by dating one, it's just been eating me up that you mightn't know."
Good luck!
2006-07-14 19:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my wife of 20 years told me about 11 years ago it made me the happiest man alive. Don't tell him show him.
2006-07-14 18:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by charlottebuyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy knows I'm bi and he doesn't care in the least. He knows I'm loyal and my heart belongs to him.
Just tell him. You might be pleasantly surprised!
2006-07-14 22:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Songbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is probably tell him now. dont wait till the last minute. he'll understand
2006-07-14 19:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by johnmerritt18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bi girls are gold to guys.. better chances of a 3-some.. in our eyes
2006-07-14 18:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Likely, he'll find this hot.
If not, he's likely not straight.
2006-07-14 18:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by Starlight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋