Am I a compulsive liar?

Question

I only lie when it is easier than telling the truth. But its becoming easier than the truth more often. Example: If my boyfriend asks me why I'm late home from work and its because I went for a drink with a colleague but I know he'll have some questions about it if I tell him the truth I just say 'I had to work late'. (even though the drink was entirely innocent and with a female colleague). Or if I leave my job instead of saying 'So long suckers, I hated the job and I'm off to something much nicer with better pay!' I will say 'I don't want to leave, I adore you all and loved the job and will keep in touch and the only reason I'm leaving is because I have to leave the country.' Or if my mother asks me what I did last night, instead of saying I stayed at home alone playing on Yahoo Answers I say 'I went out for dinner, it was lovely.' So, tell me... am I?

Answer 1

While it's sometimes ok to lie to protect your privacy (not telling your mother your every move) or to not burn bridges (like the job example), you shouldn't lie to your boyfriend about your whereabouts. What if a mutual friend saw you at the bar? They wouldn't know why you were there, and perhaps your boyfriend would think that you're meeting a man, trying to pick up a guy, or something worse.

Think about it this way. In the reverse situation, would you be mad if you discovered the lie? I imagine that you would be in the boyfriend scenario. If your boyfriend will get mad that you're going out for a drink with a girlfriend, you need a new boyfriend. That's too controlling.

Answer 2

Yeah, it sounds like you have some issues and might be a compulsive liar. The thing is, that it's not easier to lie - because eventually you are going to get found out when you slip up. Just tell the truth, it's so much easier.

Answer 3

Sometimes its just easier to 'bend the truth'... saves lengthy explanations that you're just not in the mood for!
But, you should know the difference between a 'white' lie and an out and out fat lie! For eg: "No, I can't go to the party with you tonight because I have to help with chores at home." - a white lie [or fib] to save you from going out with someone you dont feel like or fancy. Or, "No, I did not borrow your watch, I didnt even see it!" - when the watch is sitting in your drawer - an out and out lie, which implicates you in much more than deceit.
So whilst you are presently on the edge... keep a close guard on what it is you are fibbing or lying about to avoid becoming compulsive about it!

Answer 4

I wouldn't say u r a compulsive liar i would say it is more of just lieing about things u can just can gone and tell the truth about.I understand that lieing is much easier but is it worth leaving the one u love or having your mom believe false things.

Answer 5

Well, lying ain't bad when nobody gets hurt...but intially when we make it our habit we try to avoid telling the truth even in the minutest of circumstances, when we could just be truthful...remember, to have a stable and comfortable relationship we ought be truthful in our deeds and thoughts...only you would know when it's the best to lie and when not...coz small issues create big issues then later problems...n then conflicts...only you can deal with it...by knowing the right n the wrong !!!
All the Best.

Answer 6

I mean the lies to ur bf was wrong, it could become an issue. The job thing I think a lot of people would have done that! The mother 1 , I think we ALL try not to sound pathetic to our parents or others close to us so we tell lil white lies to makes us seem like were exciting or living life to it's fullest (mainly for the parents)

But back to the bf, You need to stop really please that isn't cool why lie about something sooooo lil??

Answer 7

You care too much what others think of you, you don't want to be talked about you are independent. And a middle or only child i suspect. You are a good liar too to get away with it which suggests you lie to yourself all of the time and refuse to admit somthing to yourself like refuse to admit you aren't getting anywhere with somthing or refusing to admit you like like someone or hate a friend, to be honest with others you must first learn to be honest with yourself. The ocasional white lie does no harm, but if you mix up and tell conflicting lies on the same or similar subject you'll get caught out and if its a petty thing to lie about they won't ever trust you. Then they WILL talk about you like you don't want. Also join some sort of society or club, this way you will trust others more and feel you can be honest with them, once you trust others and yourself you can be honest to both. Execpt of course the very ocasional white lie.

Answer 8

Yes, no offense intended. If the lies were limited to psedo-conversation with workers and peers then I would not consider it so but since you do it to everyone(which I think you implied from your question info) then it is compulsive.
It is bad to lie so frequently b/c eventually you might just start lieing to yourself and it may be difficult to trust others because you may suspect everyone of telling lies just as you do. If you want to be totally sure, that is assuming you have faith in such organizations, look it up in the DSM whichever edition is out now.

Answer 9

Yes very much so. If people start catching on then what will you do. What happens if you really are telling the truth on day and no one believes you? Then what. Lying only causes mistrust and hurt feelings of those you lied to.

Answer 10

well compulsive liars lie so much that offten they believe their own lies, for example let say that you fixed your hair and you go to work and you're just wanting to get compliments from people and you dont get any then you make up this lie by saying a lot of people really liked youre hair, and from that point on you start believing what you said. So... if you relate to that sorta thing then you are a compulsive liar.