now i am having married blessed next week in front of 150 people and i am so nervous, petrified of walking in hall with all these people even though they are family and friends, any tips on how to calm myself down, and not look petrified when i walk in
2006-07-14 10:47:51 · 12 answers · asked by shirls m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just think about how beautiful that day in May was and what it meant to you and now what it will mean to share that with your friends and family. Just think that's it's just the two of you up there getting married again. Good luck and congratulations.
2006-07-14 10:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by icddppl 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If it's any help, I was just as terrified - but this was for the wedding, not a blessing!
What exactly is so terrifying to you? Is it just being in front of so many people? Get out a piece of paper and write down everything that could go wrong with the ceremony. Then decide what you would do if it happened. I would have thought the biggest fear would be your husband not being there - I promise he will be! Then you are scared of tripping while walking? Go slowly and remember you are hanging on to your father or husband! Scared of forgetting the words? Get the priest/vicar/celebrant to give you a copy so you can practice lots. Oh, and disasters like these are more likely if you have had too much Dutch Courage beforehand!
I am presuming that you will have a veil on. What do you think the real reason for this is - it's so people cannot see how scared you are! Just think - you have your father (I presume) to go down the aisle with, and your husband to support you on the way back!
Remember you are already married - so nobody can stop the wedding! All you are doing is announcing to everyone how much you love your husband - even though you have been married for 3 months, you still want to be with him.
I know everyone says it is the bride's day: it's not - it's your parents proving to the world that you are finally off their hands! So they are probably even more worried than you are! Perhaps you will change your mind about being married and want to come home again!
I had a sleeping tablet the night before I married and I sailed through the day. I was so worried that I went down 2 dress sizes in 6 months without trying while planning my wedding - and my mother did all the work! I had a facial the day before my wedding and the girl gave me a facial massage - and she said she had never known such tension in a bride!! Oh, and I have now been married for 17 years (mostly!) happily!
Perhaps you could have a word with your Doctor and get a tranquilliser to take before the ceremony. Just remember not to take too many (nor to drink on them!).
If any disasters do happen, I guarantee that you will look back and laugh. It will make your celebration more memorable for everyone. Nobody remembers weddings where everything went well! Nobody will be laughing at you, but they will laugh WITH you because it is your day.
Then go on and enjoy the day! And good luck in your married life! You will need it (I promise you!) - but I hope this is the only thing that will ever worry you!
2006-07-14 13:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am unsure as to why you are putting yourself through this. What is the point in having a blessing infront of 150 family and friends ? If they were all true friends they would understand that you are not happy about doing it. After all isn't marriage meant to be about the happiness of you and your new husband. Is it in anyway possible to call this blessing off ?
I hope you are strong enough to.
Good luck and by the way congratulations.
2006-07-14 11:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, what you are feeling is quite normal!!
You could try some relaxation. Light some candles, put on your favourtie music (perhaps the music that is going to be played at the blessing) Put the phone on answerphoneso you won't be disturbed.
Let yourself relax and reflect on how wonderful this is. Think about your love and what a special day this will be.
People will expect you to be a little nervous.
It will be fine. Congratulations and good luck!!!
2006-07-14 10:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by Suzita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soon as you see him.. focus on nothing else but him as if you two were the only people in the room.. if u do this u wont even think about the others watching.. When the chapel doors opened i just stared in my husbands eyes all the way down i dont even remember actually walking down the isle i was just so fixated on him and being happy that they all just kind of briefly disappeared..
Good luck
2006-07-14 10:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of them went thru this walk,or will.They are not studying you,only remembering their wedding or maybe thinking about their big day.Whichever,it is still your day to shine,so don't sweat the small stuff,but enjoy.They will only embrace your day with you,not judge..Take care.
P>S> my son just got married and did not remember to speak at one point,he actually thought it was a prayer ,and not part of the vows..but ,hey,who cared..IT WAS BEAUTIFUL.
2006-07-14 10:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take deep breaths, like being in labour really, count to ten and then go for it, having the same trouble my self, and i started doing the breathing now, the thought of wedding, lots of people, staring, camera's, - turned my stomach. its ur wedding day, enjoy it and take it in YOUR stride!
just remember don't panic!
2006-07-15 06:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly hope that all in the church know you are already married! Otherwise, you are pullin g a hoax on them. This is your day..enjoy it.
2006-07-14 10:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be shy and even if your nervous just think of the good thingd that is going to happen.
2006-07-14 22:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by bijita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drink alcohol...
take a deep breath...
and concentrate on not tripping over your own feet... ;)
2006-07-14 10:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋