2006-07-14 10:28:26 · 19 answers · asked by Retarded Dave 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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I understand your curiosity, but get real,
This is a stupid quest.
Many children are accidents !!! Young couples struggling to make a relationship work and pay the bills RARELY really PLAN the first child, or the second, etc.
But they DO LOVE THEM once their precious little
"accidents" arrive, and delight them.
Stop looking for problems, and do something nice for your Mom instead.
If you really love YOURSELF in the right way,
then you would understand that looking for problems only hurts your Mom, AND you.
You are a worthy human being (accident or planned).
Now do something good with yourself.
I wish you a life of love
stw
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2006-07-14 10:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Try to put yourself into your mother's shoes first: HOW WOULD YOU FEEL? To begin with, if you were an accident--would you not think that mom would have had an abortion? There was always a way to end a pregnancy, even in the olden days.
Next, you need to stop the power game---because getting your mother to admit to something you want to hear is power, and that is really not necessary.
Lastly, and most importantly, you cannot change who you are and you cannot change who your mother is. All you can do is change your behavior. In the end, trying to get mom to admit something you would like to hear will only hurt you.....
2006-07-14 17:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going you a questioned and I want you to really think about this. Why do you want to hear this????? Is it because you feel unwanted because you feel she dose'nt care because you hope she dosen't so you have reason to leave are feel angry are hate life. Because really it's more than just want your mother to admit you were an accident. You want her to say she never wanted you so you can feel something. i don't what emotion maybe anger pain deceit fear humilation are all of thee above. But the truth is your not saying she is a bad mother your not saying you hate her are she's never around your not saying she mistreats you are she's the worst mother in the world. All your saying is that you THINK you were an accident as if she did'nt want you then and dosen't want you now when I believe you know she dose. So the real question is why do you need to hear this are you going to trick her into saying it by being bad acting out hurting her trying to make her feel like she dose'nt want you so you can get this answer to you were an accident. Because many of us are we were'nt planned out but even if we were'nt if are parents are still there we know that they want us now and most likely after they found out. Now if your moms throweing it up in your face that you were planned and you have evidence to prove other wise then just tell her you think you were an accident and if she denies this. You have no proof to prove other wise because you were'nt there. But the real truth is what are after what are you looking for what emotions are you trying to gain by having this question being answered will give you???
2006-07-14 18:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by Shelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you were an accident, no mother that loves you will admit to that. If truth be know, probably most of us are accidents. I know I was. So move on.
2006-07-14 17:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to get your mother to validate this one way or another? Most of us are accidents, doesn't make us less or loved less by the person who had the accident, it just means we were an unforeseen event! It shouldn't even be an issue what can you do to change the past, NOTHING! Work on the future and build on positives with your mom , she deserves it!
2006-07-14 17:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most pregnancies are not planned... however, that does not make them accidents. An accident is something that unexpectedly happens, and usually has a negative outcome. I did not plan on getting pregnant with my son, but i would never say he was an accident. I am blessed to have him in my life, and wouldn't change things for any reason.
2006-07-14 17:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to hurt your mom like that, Dude? I'd say 75% of the children born in the last 100 years were accidents if you want to call it that. Ask God....He's the one who put you here. Stop blaming all of your problems on your mom, you little twit!
2006-07-14 17:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already know, what does it matter? You mother kept you, loved you, took care of you, she didn't get rid of you. What are you wanting to hold against her? Some people didn't have the same choices we have today, but she was also couragous enough to keep you. Think about what you are trying to get out of this scenario!
2006-07-14 17:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does it matter if you were. do you think 40 years ago any of us would be here if they had the pill. many a slip between the cup and the lip, many parents had your so called accidents and once that baby is here you instantly fall in love, get over it,
2006-07-14 17:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by bosslady17872 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of us were accidents - at least not planned. Why bring this trauma back to your moms now - she probably has hurt about it all these years. So what if you were?
2006-07-14 17:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋