(Sorry for re-posting but just wanted some more opinions.) Also, this is not some fly-by-night relationship, we're talking looong-term. When do you give up the good fight?
2006-07-14 10:24:33 · 9 answers · asked by rhiannon2797 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
everything about him which u used to find attractive and romantic,
are now intolerable disgusting and stupid
2006-07-14 10:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by jam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the kind of person that keeps trying too but there always comes a time when enough is enough. How long can you wait for things to change ? How long can you hope ? At some point you have to realize that your just wasting time. If your not getting what you want from the relationship and you have talked about it endlessly and nothing is changing, its time to end the relationship. Just because you have been together for a long time does not mean you should stay together. I think in your case, its probably time to give up the good fight. I did.
2006-07-14 17:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you really don't. Here when it's a must: Situations of abuse, serious mental health, and blatant infidelity. All other reasons can be worked on over time. Seriously. Don't fall for the crap society gives you. Society wants you to give up. But will that make you happy or a better person inside? With the exception of the situations mentioned above, the answer is no.
2006-07-14 17:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this relationship a marriage or just a LTR? Are there any kids involved?
If it is just a LTR, you need to ask yourselves if you like the direction things are going and if things can possibly get any better. If things can get better, do you want them to? If you have come to the conclusion that you really are read to end things - end them. It will never get better unless you BOTH want them to get better.
If, on the other hand, you decide that you would like to see things get better, throw the doors of communication wide open and talk to each other about what it will take to improve things and make things work. You both need to communicate openly, honestly and non-threateningly if you really want things to work out. You will both need to compromise in some areas and you will both need to get into the mindset of “What ever I do to make my partner’s life easier and more enjoyable will make my life easier and more enjoyable, too”.
If you are married, you need to evaluate how important the institution of marriage truly is. How much did the wedding vows really mean to each of you? Are you both truly putting in 150% to make things work out?
If there are children involved, are you both setting the best example for the kids? What actions are truly best for the kids?
I wish you both all the best!
2006-07-14 17:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get upset with your significant other, and you say, "The next time I start dating someone, I'm gonna do this different..."
It's called a Freudian slip. It's your brain telling you, and everyone who's listening, that you've already given up on the relationship.
2006-07-14 17:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by foofoo19472 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you dont have anything in common anymore. you cant talk about what is bothering you or anything without fighting. when you think that if you have to spend one more minute with him that you are going to choke him out.
we had a rough spot about two months ago. bad enough that i asked him who was going to move him or me.. he said thats not what he wanted and has been pretty good about talking about everything since then.
it really surprised him that i had thought about leaving him. it threw him for a loop actually because he didnt realise that i was to that point.
2006-07-14 17:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated, stopped communicating with you, lied to you, caught an std, physically abused you, mentally abused you, or is married to somebody else.
The same goes for if any of those apply to you.
2006-07-14 17:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess its when u no longer appreciate the time you spend together. when u no longer get butterflies and your time spent with him is more out of habit than love. to continue to be with him because u feel comfortable is cheating both of you out of happiness
2006-07-14 17:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by natty b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goddammitt! Just dump the turd and get on with it.
2006-07-14 17:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by jack f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋