My wife wants a baby, I agreed to start trying in 10 months, she talks about it everyday, its annoying?

Question

My wife and I have been together for 5 years and married for 1.5 years of that time.

She finally said she didn't want to wait any longer to have a baby (she is 23 and I am 25) and that I needed to set a date to start trying.

I told her we would start next May when we pay off the house so I will have $2300 extra every month for a baby. And she agreed to that and has been really happy that we will start soon.

Everyday she talks about how she is excited that in 10 months we are going to try for a baby. She likes to see the baby clothes and talks to me about it and sometimes cries because she says it hurts that she doesn't have a baby yet and time is going by slow for her and its hard.

I keep telling her 10 months will go by fast, but she seems to really be upset about this.

How do I deal with this?

We have had a our dog since he was a puppy and he is 2.5 years old. She is his mommy and loves him a lot. I know she will be a good mom.

Answer 1

Brace yourself it will only get worse!! In ten months you will start getting phone calls saying that the thermometer says it is time for sex. You will have to go home and be a stud. You poor thing.

For the moment just try and point out the advantages of waiting, When she points out baby clothes say: "Yes when we pay off the house we can afford that honey." Otherwise give her an allowance to start shopping now.

Answer 2

ok, i can't relate to how she feels b/c at 23 that is the last thing I wanted. But, some women are just very maternal. Sounds like she will be a great mom, but in the mean time, you guys need to enjoy what time you have left of each other before you bring a child into the mix. You should tell her something along those lines. Tell her that instead of thinking about how slow time is moving that she needs to enjoy what precious time you guys have together b/c babies, while beautiful, are a lot of work and time and you guys will not be alone again the way you are now until the kids are out of the house. So, enjoy it.

Answer 3

Do you ever obssesed with something in your life that even when your parents says they'll get it for you for christmas you still nag about it at them to try to push your luck hoping to change their mind to get it sooner ?? Turn to your parents advice wont hurt.

However this one is worse 'cause it's a woman's hormon. Most of the times,even she can't control it. The act of excitment,upsetness, cries is just another way of showing you that she needs help in controlling those hormons.She needs sense of security that you will be the man of your words.Sometimes you don't need to do anything,just let her pour out whats inside and listen,give her a hug and a closing speech in the end pointing that "it will happen as you promised", it would rest the case for the day.

So what if you have to do or say this a thousand times everyday just to make her feel better ? This is the least you can do for her.Once she's pregnant,she's gonna do most of the work anyway.

Trust me,when the baby is on the way, there'll be a lot more nagging on the way too,so mind as well learn how to handle it from now.Think of it as a practise to be a good dad.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

I'm sure you don't want to hear this, but 23 is still young to have a baby. I wonder if your wife has an emptiness that she feels will be filled by having a baby? And, who's to say that she will get pregnant right away, once you do start to try in 10 months? Is she prepared to deal with that pain? You need to talk to your wife and let her know how you feel. You also need to find out why she feels so strongly to have a baby so soon.

Answer 5

Why wait??? You do what you want to do, and you will be able to afford it, no matter what. She wants a baby, so go to it...this planning stuff is really very silly in the total scope of things. Are a few months either way really that important??? So what if the house is paid off in 10 months or 20 months...big deal. Stop with the excuses and get with the action. She has proven all the way around that she wants what she wants..you can give it to her. Why are you being selfish..and that is exactly what it is. You are determined to pay off a house???? It will get paid off and she can have a baby...you both can be happy. Don't you love her enough to do what she wants? Are you telling us that you love a paid off mortgage more than you love your wife??? Boy..that takes it all.

Answer 6

Give her a break, havent u ever been really excited about something.. i bet she was equally excited when you were engaged in anticipation of the wedding and planning.. for it ect.. Shes excited about sharing a Life with u.. and shes excited .. dont take this away from her.. let her be excited.. women dream of being mommys from the time they are little.. its not 10 months that she's been waiting, shes been waiting her whole life for this moment to happen.. while u were off dreaming of being a superhero or fireman ect.. she was playing house with her dolls dreaming of a day that she'd meet the perfect man, and have the perfect family and she's found her perfect man and now she's embarking on living out her dream of having a baby to complete her family .. So to u it seems like its only been a short time, but to her its something she's probably dreamt about since she was 5 years old.. Please dont ruin this special moment for her.. love her enough to let her be excited....

Answer 7

so how long has she been on B.C. since you guys been together for 6.5 years and I think you shoule go head and have baby and it take 9 months for baby to be ready right now it july. so it will be ready in july next year. and start now and it will work out fine. and It works for me... and Money not a plm for me when I though money oh my god what will i do ??? but knowing that many o fmy friend send me all baby clothes and you will be shocked if you have alot of friends giving you baby clothes which is good thing.

remember again it take 9 months for a baby to be born... I don't see why not she is ready and you are ready... house will be paid off by the time baby arrived. smiling.

Or is it that you didn't want to have baby not just becasue the house or anything????

Answer 8

Woman really gets sentimental about babies, after all is within their nature to deliver and reproduce.

I believe the first step is for you to understand how this affects her, and try to be more of a partner, also you can talk to her, about this issue, demonstrate that you can be excited too, but at this moment you have other issues that you are facing, and unfortunately you are not as excited as her, even though you want the baby too.

Anyway, if you give her some incentive to start working, maybe she will occupy her mind with some other things. (I don't even know if she is a housewife, but I guessed).

If you decide to have the conversation I would recommend to you to get a baby's toy or gift for her, so she will understand better your feelings.

Answer 9

Think about this. Do you have any definite proof that 10 months would be a better time? What if it isn't? Are you going to tell her to put it off again? Do you like regret? Do it now. Have the baby. Hell, if money is an issue to you, look at the baby as a tax write off. But you're a selfish bastard for thinking like that.

Answer 10

This is very exciting for a woman.(speaking from experience) get excited with her/ start making baby books picking out names, looking for bedding, etc show her that your life together is going to be shared with a very special baby made from 2 people who really love each other. put markers on the fridge and every month that goes bye on that day go and buy something for the baby that you can both put some effort into. like start a scrapbook and include pictures from when you were both born and both of the grandparents. this is your last year and a half with quiet nights and uninterrupted sex enjoy it