OK..Because of my religious princibles..I have not had a boyfriend for a year and a half...and done any flirting or meeting men either...because that kind of thing is banned in Islam!
My friends have tried fixing me up with a husband in the Islamic way..but I have not liked any because they are very strict..and think things like listening to music is banned :-((
So I am very lonely without any male company :-(((
SO THIS IS MY PROBLEM!!!....
I have recently found myself doing stuuuuuuuupid things like flirting on the internet!!!...
I have met guy..that I REALLY liked on this site..and been talking to him for about a month... And I have started to really like him!!
And I thought he liked me too...He certainly said so..And we wrote a lot...
But now he he hasn't wrote to me for nearly a day :-(( And I am worried that he doesn't like me any more....
2006-07-14 10:00:30 · 28 answers · asked by Sad Silly Girl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
because of something I wrote in my last mail (I asked him where this relationship was going)
He wrote back to me saying that he write me a longer letter after he has finished his work..and wishing me goodnight... That has been 24 hours now..and I have since seen him answer questions on this site,,,
I know he is busier than me because he studies and has a job..whilst I am gainfully underemployed..but he hasn't even replied when I said hello to him...
Do you think he does not like me anymore??
What should I do..should I write 1 more email asking him what happened..if he still doesn't write after a day..and then switch of the computer and forget about him!!!
I could ring him..because he gave me his number..but he lives in the USA..and I in Turkey..so it would be really loser-like to ring someone just because of an email.....
2006-07-14 10:00:57 · update #1
WHAT SHOULD I DO?????? Because I really I liked that man?? And I must be really sad for falling for someone over the internet!!!
What advises can you give me.. (Sorry for writing sooooooooo much)
THANK YOU
2006-07-14 10:02:20 · update #2
Quite simple- Go to the start panel and select shutdown, proceed outside and enjoy life!
2006-07-14 10:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by JARLAB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... don't call yourself a sad internet loser! You have so much more to offer regardless of your religious principles... Before anything else, including getting involved in a relationship (online or not) you need to maybe work on your self-esteem.... the lack of confidence you have in yourself shows throughout your messages....
Second, I'm sorry you're having a rough time - relationships are difficult and can be painful... even if they are not serious
Third, I respect your religious beliefs - but make sure that you are convicted in what you believe in... otherwise there is no point to what you are following
Last but not least... don't call him - he said he would write you... and if he is a man of character then he will... I would give it at least one more day ( I don't know how consistent you two were communicating ) but maybe he is having trouble putting in words what he wants to say... YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT VALUE YOU! So let this be a test in a sense of what he is willing to offer... He probably still likes you - I would not get too overwhelmed with that... but keep in mind that this is an online relationship... where were you hoping it was going to go? It's a very hard situation living in different countries as well... If after all, he does not respond... still do not call him - but e-mail him as you normally would and let him know that your feelings were hurt (but limit it to a bare minimum - literally a few sentences - but that you enjoyed your conversations and you're sad to see it end like this... or whatnot) make sure that you have confidence... I'm truly sorry that you're lonely - chances are he was too and may have not been looking for more! You never know... look to your friends and family in the meantime and don't stress about this... There is a plan and a purpose for everything that happens in life.
2006-07-14 10:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - YOU ARE NOT A LOSER!!! I completely understand what you're going through because I'm muslim too, but let me tell you something, you can do other things with your time instead of flirting with guys, I mean guys aren't everything are they? Why don't you have some 'you' time, go get your hair done or meet your friends, go shopping, get stuck into a nice book...there are loads more important things than finding a guy now..that will come when you least expect it, I hope you'll find a guy who loves you for who you are. As for your friends trying to fix you up with someone, tell them you don't want to - make it clear to anyone who forces you that you're not into that and you want someone who you love. And don't send any more messages or emails to this internet guy, let him do the running for a change if he really likes you he will if not then forget about him.
2006-07-15 02:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by before&after 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... you might be overreacting... but i understand if you are used to talking to him everyday. you probably are spending a little too much time on the internet trying to develop a relationship. is he muslim?? would you move to the united states to be with him?? is this type of relationship you want to have?? it sounds like you may not be very "strict" in regards to islam if the men you are being set up with turn you off, but then again i am not an expert on islamic customs. really you seem to just be seeking ANY type of attention from the opposite sex and you may have lowered your standards because of that type of desperation. you should do what your heart tells you, of course. but as far as this internet guy, it doesnt seem like the relationship is going to go any farther than the internet.
sorry sista... seek out websites like eHarmony.com or Yahoo! Personals... those people are looking for relationships and usually inform you to what type of relationship they are looking for. I hope this is helpful....
2006-07-14 10:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by the queen is here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with falling for someone over the internet. I would say it is best for you to just be honest with him. Write one more email let him know you have feelings for him and you would like to know where he stands on the issue. If he does not respond, you have your answer. Never give up on your idea of finding someone to love you. Everyone in the world deserves to be loved regardless of faith or looks or anything. You will find your man eventually. And you are not a loser for following your heart. That just means you are a romantic. Nothing wrong with that at all. Good luck to you!
2006-07-14 10:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you not hearing from him in one day isn't bad. I think you're just being paranoid if you say he's busy dealing with studies and work the thats more than likely it, just wait it out I'm sure something will come up. I hope everything works out for you and I wish you the best and if it doesn't it's not the end of the world. You'll find someone just give it time when you least expect it and you're not looking for someone wonderful will come along.
2006-07-14 10:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you or not, don't invest your feelings on guys on the internet. People can mask themselves as easy as 123. But if you are adventurous enough, you can think that the guy likes you. BUT, don't expect anything until you meet him and knows him better. I've been there. When they don't reply on my messages, I feel bad. But hey, now? Why do I? i don't know them at all! I know already how to play the game. Go with the flow. But don't expect anything. Learn to play the game. I'm pretty sure, the guy is already playing his game. If not, let him meet you personally (even from another country - then he must be serious). If not, find another guy on the internet. I'm pretty sure, he will treat you the same way. Play the game sweety, don't let it play you.
2006-07-14 10:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by kirsten_natalie1985 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it exactly then that you are supposed to meet people? What is it that you mean by Islamic way? Dont waste your $ calling US over some strange dude not emailing you in 24 hrs. Sorry if it hurts your feelings but the probably doesnt like you in the way you think anyway.
2006-07-14 10:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I had relationships over the internet and it's really heartbroking to be separated because of distance. But i still carry the memories of my partner with me as I value that highly and I won't forget nor regret meeting that person.
If you have an actual address of the person, write to him through snail mail and tell him how you really feel.
2006-07-14 10:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by Ryoga316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that islam does not ban these relationships between men and women to make people sad but that happened to make them more and more happier and at last to enter the heaven not hell
all what i say that u must leave these kind of boys who know girls on the internet just for fun and try the islamic way and u will b much happier iam sure of that
2006-07-14 10:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by Stay Alive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy by yourself then how are you going to be happy being in a relationship when someone is around all of the time. You need to learn to not to be so desperate to find someone and just be patient. Desperate people do dumb things that they always later regret. If you are truly a religious person then if it is meant for you to be with someone it will be.
2006-07-14 10:08:57 · answer #11 · answered by King Midas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋