I am in a HONEST open marriage. I am just start to feel guilty about her not having a choice in the matter. She loves this lying man who is lovin on me.
2006-07-14 09:41:36 · 14 answers · asked by soleolunar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You wouldn't have had an obligation if he'd kept his mouth shut. But now you know, and I'm assuming you know that she doesn't know that he's pursuing and open relationship. I would tell her, because divorce is expensive.
2006-07-14 09:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by acholtz@verizon.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have an open marriage, but your lover doesn't. So the moral obligation was not to get involved with the guy in the first place and found another with your morals. Break it off and get someone that is in the same type relationship as you and hubby. This dude is in a different league he is just out there being a pig where for you and hubby are different you both are aware and have rules and such. He is just playing both sides of the court and there really is now winner here.
2006-07-14 10:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by honey2bears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in an open marriage having an affair with a guy that is engaged and your talking about being moral ?? Aren't you lovin a husband who's lovin on other women ? Are you sure your not just being selfish and wanting the other girl out of the picture ?
2006-07-14 09:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Personally, if you want a free marriage, that's your prerogative, and I agree that you have a moral obligation to protect this woman. Then there's the part of me that says you should stop seeing this cheater, but that would only make him look elsewhere to be screwing around on his wife. I guess the happiest middle ground you could find would be to send the poor, misinformed woman an anonymous letter saying something like you know her husband's screwing around... you know a friend of a friend, or some such, and hope for the best.
2006-07-14 09:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in an open marriage, yet he's engaged to be married to someone else? Your okay with him being married to two different women at the same time? {which I do think is illegal, unless your morman or something like that...} So yea, you both have a not only moral obligation to tell this woman that he's already married, as well as a legal one, before he says * he does again*
2006-07-14 10:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by celeste_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in her shoes. Maybe you and your hubby have a "open" relationship regarding sex, but how would you feel if your hubby lied to you about something that you hold sacred? It is the same. Would you want to know? Not only are you doing your part to hurt this girl by staying silent, you are also enabling this jerk to hurt his fiance. Sad to say, but yes you do have an obligation, but more to yourself than anything else. Do you really want to be that kind of person?
2006-07-14 09:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a moral obligation to yourself always. Personally I would never be in an open relationship of any kind ever. That's what being loved unconditionally is all about. This just reminds me of the old saying that goes like this..........."Cheat with me and I'll cheat on you." In this day and age of all kinds of Social Diseases one never knows what they might catch and not be able to cure. Any how I could never figure out how people in this situation could ever really trust one another. "Cheat with me...........I'll cheat on you." Words to live by. Good Luck
2006-07-15 10:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by tonij16102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER!! Marriage is final! Give her the opportunity to stop the wedding plans so she doesn't have to go through ugly divorces and annulments.. Unless of course she get's kind of turned on by the whole thing and you all can have a happy foursome!!!
2006-07-14 09:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Rolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but you have a moral obligation to yourself to stop destroying other people's lives.
Swing if you want, but make sure ALL parties involved are willing to share.
2006-07-14 09:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by mynx326 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but you have a moral obligation to yourself to do the right thing.
2006-07-14 09:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋