My friendship has been a one sided friendship. He's a nice guy, but he's never there whenever I need someone to talk to and he expects me to be there for him. Should I drop him as a friend or stick with it? BTW: He's studying for the bar. If I do decide to drop him should I do it now or after he takes the bar?
2006-07-14 09:38:32 · 11 answers · asked by karma 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
FYI: This is not the first time he has taken the bar (this is his 5th time), and I have been there for him for each time. During those times I have been there, I had 3 deaths in my family, a birth and currently I am going through some personal issues, and no support from him (and he knows about it too).
2006-07-14 10:39:50 · update #1
Stay friends only if you know the true meaning of friend. If you are asking this kind of question you have no idea what it means to be a friend. Learn this first then you won't need to ask this question because you will know what a friend means
2006-07-14 09:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by rudytute 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe let him know how you feel before you throw the friendship away. Its not fair to you to be there for him and him not be there for you. Maybe he under alot of stress right now taking the bar. If you decide to do this do it gradually. Maybe after the bar. If it was me I would stick in there. Friendship is valuable. Good Luck and Best Wishes!!
2006-07-14 09:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask not what you can get from your friends, but what you can give to them! He's going through a crazy stressful time... I can't even imagine what it's like to prepare for the bar exam.
He'll be more ready to be the friend you need him to be when he's done with that, in the meantime, be the friend he needs you to be. You'll be a better person for it!
2006-07-14 09:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by deangelis88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all have you told him how you feel? Sometimes men just arent very attentive and sad as it is some of them just dont know how to be there for others. It could be that he doesnt realize what he is doing and how he is making you feel. I think after you talk to him see how things go and if things dont change then I think you should move on because you are just going to feel bad in the end.
2006-07-14 09:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm...how do you expect him to have time, energy, sanity, and compassion available for you while he's studying for the bar? Passing the bar ain't as easy as falling off a log. Why don't ya wait and see if he's still a jerk when the pressure's not as bad?
2006-07-14 09:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by A B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes just stressed out, but a REAL friend would stick with him and tell him how u feel and ur feelings and maybe he will change just hang in there, but i agree maybe hes a lil stressd out 4 studying the bar and needs sum time 2 just think, just tell him how u feel AFTER the bar so hes not doubly stressd!!
2006-07-14 09:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by x0x0_zEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until hisBar is over, then see if he changes. Tell him how you're feeling when the time is right.
If you see no change after that then move on.
2006-07-14 09:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there my dear he may be a better friend after his bar. don't give up on him
2006-07-14 09:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the choice is yours if you do and when you do it. personally i think you should stick with it. Good Luck.
2006-07-14 09:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by Snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't care when you do it but you need to drop him
2006-07-14 09:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋