I work in a warehouse store managing the book department and ever since my first week on the job the store manager yells at me constantly. When she needs to say something to me she gets very confrontational and scares the **** out of me. I have asperger's syndrome, a form of high functioning autism that causes impaired social functioning. When I told her this and said that yelling is counter-productive when dealing with HF autistics she basically said I just need to learn how to deal with people better and that the yelling is for my own good. She refuses to improve the way she treats me. According to her I'm doing a good job with my department though. I work in Delaware and the company is based out of Pennsylvania. I have no problem with the other managers. What can I do? I can't afford to quit without another job.
2006-07-14 09:23:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Go discuss the issue with either the Human Relations department or your boss' supervisor and file a formal complaint with the company. They are not allowed to fire you in either PA or DE for doing this. There is no reason for you to be treated like that regardless of whether you are autistic.
If that does not work, start looking elsewhere.
2006-07-14 09:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by Lubers25 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try a little harder to get used to her (and she to you).
But if it doesn't improve, you should reach out to the HR department. Be careful about pushing the HF Autism angle. Did you make this clear when you applied?
Communicating through yelling and threats is generally not acceptable in almost any company that has an interest in attracting and retaining good employees. That alone should be a basis for trying to resolve this.
But if you make them think that because of your condition, you'll need to be handled with kid gloves, I'm afraid your time on the job will become even more stressful.
Just tell them you need to be handled like an adult. If it doesn't improve quickly (meaning within a few weeks after you make your complaint)...look for another job.
And if anyone retaliates abusively, verbally or otherwise, be sure to make a note of it. Then...look for a lawyer AND another job.
2006-07-14 09:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is called Harassment and SHE your Boss is in the Wrong, You should not take that, And you should go to the Human Resource or someone over her AND FILE/VOICE your complaint just like you are doing now. When you do not know your rights you become UNAWARE of what is known as a LAW SUITE, And if you do as I say you may never have to WORK again in your LIFE, WITH PLENTY OF MONEY, OR SHE your Boss will be OUT OF A JOB. PLEASE DO NOT SET AROUND EACH DAY AND LET HER PUT YOU THREW THIS. OK
2006-07-14 09:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by sweettoni37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there an HR manager you can go to and have him/her "observe" the situation. That COULD be considered discriminatory treatment and/or creating a hostile environment, and an HR professional would want to nip that in the bud if seen so as to avoid potential lawsuits.
If not, I would suggest either trying to learn to deal with this woman more effectively, or start looking for another job so you can quit as soon as you find one.
Good luck.
2006-07-14 10:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Shadycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe see if it is possible to speak to someone in HR on an anonymous basis to find out what the policies might be about this. Then maybe speak to another supervisor. Start to document the occasions when this takes place, and include the circumstances and outcome of each incident. It doesn't sound like she has any reason for treating you this way.
2006-07-14 09:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by francesfarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesn't understand Aspergers. I'd go to her supervisor or one of your other supervisors. Maybe they could talk to her. If you have been diagnosed with this by a medical doctor it could be considered a disability. In that case, in the interest of the company and her job she needs to be careful how she treats you. There are disability agencies and disability laws on your side!
2006-07-14 09:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by pottersclay70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said ur boss told u that 'yelling is for ur own good'. than u said she said that ur 'doing a good job' with ur department. i had bosses that would never admit that. so if u like ur job and think u can get used in time with her yelling then good; if not, quit ur job but not without finding another first.
anywayz, i don't think you should let a person determine u to quit if ur doing a good job, don't u think?
take care
2006-07-14 09:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by James Blond 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are covered with the Americans with disability act you may however need an attorney to resolve the problem. I was yelled at and grabbed, it ended up driving me insane and likely costing me everything.
Seek some form of relieive now, before you crack.
2006-07-14 09:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak your her supervisor about this. No one deserves to be yelled at on the job and that is a sign of a very poor supervisor. If her supervisor will not take care of this, you need to find another job.
2006-07-14 09:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken with her manager about her treatment? If not, I think this should be your first set in getting things resolved.
If you have then I would speak with your human resource department.
You have rights as an employee to have a non-threatening employee relationship with your supervisors.
Check out your rights at www.eeoc.com
2006-07-14 09:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by UOPHXstudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋