I am in a relationship which is coming to an end.... I was at work today and my ex (the one I was with before the current one) came through the door..... he was applying for one of our job postings, but he was being very flirtacious, and also bringin up our past which involved well you know. I was shocked that I even seen him because I had heard he went to Korea. He explained that since Korea he has been in school and he is now looking for a good job. My heart dropped when I seen him because it's been almost 5 years, and we ended the relationship on good terms, so I really missed him there for a while. Basically I am wanting to know am I wrong for feeling this way, and would I be wrong if I called him up one day even though my relationship now is not completely over?
2006-07-14 09:21:59 · 28 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, the feeling you have towards your ex are fine. I would not recommend getting involved romantically again , but a friendship is always a good thing to have. things ended well with you and him, and I would think that you would want things to end well with your current beau. I can't tell you how to feel or what to do but if you handle things maturely they might just work out for you.
2006-07-14 09:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by mary r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all even though your current relationship is coming to an end, it hasn't ended, therefore you shouldn't be looking for prospective relationships.
Now then, it is normal to feel something for an old flame, especially after such a long interlude. I would call him, but don't jump into anything so suddenly. Try and become his friend again first. People change in 5 years, he may not be the same person you remember, or he may even be the same person you do remember but you need to think about why the two of you didn't work out the first place. Take it slow, especially since your not single yet and when you do become single, you don't want to be caught on the rebound.
2006-07-14 09:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there some sort of count down that you have to wait for until you can end your current relationship? Never start one relationship until the other is over...so call your bf and tell him it's over and then call your ex and let him know your available...it could be a sign that he entered your life at the point..don't let he come and go without finding out what it is.
2006-07-14 09:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? Why would you have second thoughts about calling him? If there is something holding you and makes you think twice then maybe you should wait, Besides he know where you work and where to find you. Let him be the one to take initiative. In the mean time, worry about your problem with the current one. Take one step at a time, don't rush into things they usually don't come out they way they should.
2006-07-14 09:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ladyshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah call him y not besides ur relationship with a current one as u said is coming to an end so Breakin up with some one who is already ur with him kinda half way takes 10 mins break up n u can call the other guy ...but the other guy ever asked u to call him or not if he din't it means he just passed a fancy n talked about those days that's it otherwise he might not to be meanin that , has he asked u to get back to him or what?
2006-07-14 09:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would end my relationship first and then proceed searching for new horizons but remember you and the guy from Korea broke up for a reason, there's a reason why he's your ex and not your current. Good Luck
2006-07-14 09:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to someone else is not wrong. Depends on what your saying is the important thing....if you know already in your heart that you think you want to get back with the guy , then you need to call up the current BF and just tell him its over...good luck!
2006-07-14 09:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, he's back from Korea and looking for some "Well, you know"...call him if you wish, but remember it doesn't always work out the second time around and you may just be left feeling "Well, you know" FOOLISH! I wouldn't want to feel that way in front of my co-workers, especially if he got the job at your company.
Think first!
2006-07-14 09:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by fourcolor4u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think just keep his # bu t dont call him ye. You could just be yearning for affection because you see him lookin ggood and you r relationship is about 2 be over. Plus you dont want to date a guy you work with. But give it 2 wks and see i f he wants to go 2 lunch catch up o n old times wouldnt hurt
2006-07-14 09:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just feel excitement of seeing him. Why not call him for friendly sake. You can explain to the current one that you just seeing a long time friend. while seeing him you can check your feeling if still there. Be a good girl alright!
2006-07-14 09:27:26 · answer #10 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋