I need your help and maybe your advice. My Girlfriend, who lives with me and I love her dearly, has a bad problem once a month. It's PMS. It hits her real bad and I can't seem to do anything to help her. At least one day of her PMS week she has a total melt down and cries almost constantly. It is unnerving and at times I have to get away from her without her knowing she is the cause. I feel real bad for her. Is there anything that can help her? She is 44 and pre menopausal and has never done anything to help herself other than Midol witch is a joke, might as well take a squirt gun to a Gun fight.
2006-07-14 09:13:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Ask her gently to see a doctor (when she is not PMSing!!). Tell her you would even go with her for support. When PMS interferes with your day to day living and your relationships it may be time to go on a medication that will help. At least a doctor would be able to diagnose, correctly, any health problems too. GOOD LUCK!
By the way...you are a wonderful boyfriend for caring so much about helping your girlfriend when it comes to such a feminine problem. I hope she knows how lucky she is!
2006-07-14 09:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
I have found from my own experience with PMS that really good nutrition is the answer! High calcium intake (yogurt especially helps) has made the most difference for me. I take the Viactive chocolate calcium chews. Vitamin B complex also seems to help a lot. And, drinking lots and lots of water. At least 8 8oz glasses everyday!! I feel her pain, I've been there (although without the menopause, I'm 36), but the supplements and eating whole foods, cutting out the processed junk food as much as possible has really made a difference for me. And, she should try to avoid chocolate during that week. I crave it terribly during PMS, but I've learned that it adds to the craziness and makes my mood swings so much worse. Hope that helps! Good Luck to both of you.
2006-07-14 16:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by Legs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks. I'm peri-menopausal and (not every month) but some months I feel my body and mind are not my own! She should talk with her gynecologist about her symptoms. She may need some blood work and if her hormones are totally out of wack she may need some hormone therapy. Otherwise, talk to her when she's not going through PMS and find out how you can help her. Let her know how it affects you and that might prompt her to go to the doctor.
Hang in there!
2006-07-14 16:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is serious. I get PMS also. I can say it sounds like she would benefit from a mild anti depressant. There are some that were designed for PMS. There are also herbal remedies that help. Otherwise when you know what is coming try hard to be sensitive. Would time apart help you when she is having a mood swing? I take it your supportive and try to help her which is sweet.
Seriously though try hard to get her to try the PMS related anti depressants. Otherwise pray for menopause!!! Just joking!
2006-07-14 16:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by Spay-n-Neuter-Your-Pets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel the same way. At a time like that you really don't want anyone around you or even touching you for that matter, so give her her space. Make her atmosphere as comfortable as possible, soft pillows, blankets, hot tea or cider, for instance. Also be very patient with her even though you may feel fustrated. In the past I have actually gone to the Emergency Room because of the unbearable pain and they'll give me a pain shot and pain med's to go home with. Goodluck for you and your Girlfriend, God Bless.
2006-07-14 16:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Prayerwarrior 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should go for a one-time manual treatment called Atlasprofilax. The effect on the self-healing capacity of the body is simply amazing - own experience, of course on other symptoms... ;-)
Specially with PMS, the situation should get better quickly.
Just - the treatment is available in California and Europe only (situation today), it's really worth travelling far.
2006-07-14 16:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by swissnick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know other than going through the change of life
but I was diagnosed with a thyroid problem and I'm 47. It also
can cause physical and possibily hormonal problems. I'm having this
checked out by an endocrinologist. There is overactive and underactive
thyroid. A blood test for TSH is what found mine.
2006-07-14 16:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by laurie2012002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PMS sucks. getting emotional sucks.There is really not a lot that a woman can do about this...and being menopausal might make it a little worse. getting away for your own sanity isn't cruel! Sometimes when I am PMS I wish I could get away from myself. Sometimes there is no easy answer other than being supportive... maybe you can make her laugh or make her feel more physically comfortable...
2006-07-14 16:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by sleepwalkin smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should go to her gynecologist, there could be more to this problem than just menstrual. But as far as home remedies until she is able to get to her doctor have her try the termacare back patch and put it on her abdomen for the cramping, this is absolutely the best $5.00 you will ever spend. They produce heat for up to 8 hours, although I have had one work for over 12 before. As far as you, for your sanity you must escape at times but just try to be understanding (which it sounds like you are), and give her frequent back rubs! Lots of hugs and love are the best remedy!
2006-07-14 16:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by myzticalblueeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 44 you should know perfectly how to deal with PMS, she is not ready for menopause, it is only hormonal change the cause. We as somen have those changes, but we need to deal with them, not to make a mess from them.
2006-07-14 16:19:07 · answer #10 · answered by Luz Elena L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋