if you conceived because you were raped would you have the baby? and why? read more....?

Question

My friend (we'll call her beth) was a product of rape, and her biological mother was extremely young, beth was told that her bio-mother was only 14 when she had her. Beth intends on finding he biological mother in a few years after she finishes college, and thanking her for giving her a chance at life..

would you be able to carry a baby to term and put it up for adoption, or would you terminate the pregnancy?

Personal Opnions please!

hey mtjbrady being PRO CHOICE mean's that you believe in the CHOICE, being strictly PRO LIFE is where people hate you!

I'm PRO CHOICE, and i'm not a hippie, i live in 2006!

Answer 1

one of my sisters was raped when she was 13. she didn't tell anyone, continued to have breakthrough bleeding at times so she didn't know she was pregnant. not to mention, when you are 13, pregnancy isn't something you really suspect when you aren't on a regular cycle yet. then, one night when she was home alone, she started labor. in less than six hours, she had delivered her baby all by herself, without any drugs or knowledge of what to do. she ended up passing out after the delivery with the baby on her chest and without delivering the placenta. it was a complete miracle that she and the baby didn't bleed to death. when she found this out, she decided it meant that this baby was truly meant to have a chance at life. she immediately started interviewing adoptive parents and said she felt a very strong pull to the couple she chose. to this day, i think that she went through that horrible experience so that those wonderful people could have that little girl that made them feel complete. and my sister turned into a completely different person after that, but in the best way possible. she was stronger and more determined to be successful at anything she did.

i think that if it were to happen to me, i would definitely put the baby up for adoption. my sister's experience has taught me that every baby that is conceived is meant to be someone's child, that there is someone somewhere that needs that baby in their life. the look on the adoptive parents' faces would be enough to make me feel i had done the right thing.

Answer 2

Personally I would keep and love that child. They're my flesh and blood. Obviously Beth's Mother was in a different situation being so young and obviously with "Beth" nearing the end of her education we're not talking about a situation in the present but maybe even 15-20 years ago.

Good Luck and God Bless to Beth and her Biological Mother, also to her family now who have no doubt raised her as their own.

It amazes me though how easily people seem to think it would be to put your child up for adoption. Although I have no doubts that Beth's mother did nothing wrong. I ask all of those who have posted and said so easily they would put their child up for adoption, have you ever carried a child in your body for nine months, been there when they entered the world and took their first breath. Held them and watched as they look into your eyes, looking at the person whose heart beat has soothed them for nine months?

I'm not saying adoption is wrong, I know many people adopt children and these children grow up loved and happy and enrich the lives of those around them. I know for many people it is their only option to let their child be raised by another family, however I do resent the opinion that this is a easy choice for any mother to make, regardless of situation. I bet Beth's mother thinks of her everyday.

I do truly hope they find each other with the support of Beth's family.

Answer 3

I would definitly carry my baby to full term because although it was a forced pregnancy it would still be my offsrping. There are a lot of people out there that would love a baby so you could do some real good giving the child a chance at a great life. That is a great woman that did a great thing for her child. She was very smart and unselfish at such a young age. I really home your friend can find her birth mother and thank her because I think that will mean the world to her. Have a great day!

Answer 4

I really don't know. That is a hard question because until you are in that boat you wouldn't really know how you feel. I have known women who have gone both ways. I respect them all because they went on with their lives after being raped. But the one who kept her child has been an excellent mother and doesn't hold anything against the child at all (now a teenager). This is so hard to even guess what I would do. I would like to say I would have the child. But I am older and have other children already. But it would also matter if my husband could deal with keeping the child that would determine if I put the child up for adoption or not.

Answer 5

Really cant nobody make such a big decision for your friend. If it was me I think that I wouldn't want to keep the baby, because I couldn't deal with the fact of me being in such a bad ordeal. Its not the babies fault and I think that killing the baby before its born or alive for that matter is wrong. Maybe she should give the baby up for adoption. But then again she knows how it feels to have to look for her birth mother and she might not want her baby to go threw that. I think that she has to sit down and think about this all the way out. Write a list on all the good and bad out comes of this problem, maybe its best for her to keep it. Nobody knows but her and good luck on what ever it is that she decides to do.

Answer 6

I would certainly carry through with the pregnancy. That infant is not to blame for what happened; it would be unjust to take away the child's chance at life.

I would probably put the baby up for adoption, but, personally, I might want to have the option of keeping tabs on him/her or even being a part (however small) of their childhood and upbringing. I might want the chance to help him/her to become a good person.

Answer 7

No I wouldn't have a rapists baby. Sorry but I'm pregnant now and its really hard sometimes - I would not go through this for a baby that was forced on me as a result of a vile, hateful rapist who does not deserve to procreate. I don't give a damn about the baby's right to life - I'd end up killing myself if I was pregnant as a result of rape so what about MY right to life?!! Why would the baby be more important than me?

And you can talk all you like about abortion being "murder" thats crap. Its just an abortion and if its carried out early enough it is a simple procedure

As for "God" I don't beleive in God so those arguments mean nothing me. "He" should have controlled the rapist.

Answer 8

you have given a sprint bit a loaded question right here hoping that somebody will say the incorrect factor so which you would be able to argue with them. additionally it variety of feels you're making the perception that somebody that has a foul history isn't able to beat it, regardless in the event that they're in the ecosystem or no longer. i do no longer think of it is honest. evaluations aside, in case you probably did detect a toddler in the doorstep you basically could no longer take it in like a stray canine. you may notify the government or in all probability face kidnapping expenditures. So if i got here upon a toddler on my doorstep, i might call the police. My evaluations approximately abortion have not have been given any bearing on if i might save the toddler or no longer.

Answer 9

I think what her mom did was awesome but even more you friend is a remarkable person for wanting to thank her mom. I'm sure that when "beth" finds her birth mother that she will appreciate beth for finding and thanking her and leting her know that what she did was the best because im sure she has been questioning giving her up her whold life and wondering how she is. who knows maybe they will form a relationship now..its never to late...hope everything works out for her good luck

Answer 10

Obviously I can't answer this question because I am a guy. But personally, I think that rape is the only circumstance where a woman should be ALLOWED to abort a pregnancy. Whether they do or not, that's solely up to them. Just my two cents. Don't hate me, all you pro-"choice" hippies!!