She has sacked me from the business my friend and myself had together, and has accused us of having an affair. I have know my closest friend for over 30 years and I don't want to give him up because of her. Even he admits she is a nightmare but he stays with her because they have children. Any advice is appreciated!
2006-07-14 09:02:49 · 10 answers · asked by Bum Gravy. 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This isn't criticism... His loyalty is supposed to his wife, regardless of whether she's a nightmare or not... & unfortunately, due to her dislike concerning you, your presence may be adding to his nightmare, by helping to cause more complications between the 2 of them.
I'm sorry that the business you both had didn't work out & that you were accused of having an affair with him, but that's the way things can go sometimes, when there's a 3rd party involved in a marital relationship.
Sometimes, people don't realize that they're interferring in a relationship & sometimes they interfere on purpose, but either way, interferring is still interferring.
Interfere>>> get in the way, hinder, obstruct, prevent.
A 3rd party being closely involved can sometimes prevent the relationship from getting better.
I understand your not wanting to give up a good friend of 30 years, but she obviously doesn't want to give him up either.
They're supposed to be committed to one another... not supposed to put others above and/or before each other.
Been there... & letting go of a good friend is not easy, but regardless of the kind of women they're married to, we're better friends to them & can be more helpful to them by caring about them enough so that we aren't being part of the reason why they're having conflict in their marriage, & then we bow out gracefully.
2006-07-14 09:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, the circumstances of her sacking you. what were her grounds? You are protected in law from unlawful sacking. Is this her business, is she entitled to do this? Is your friend of 30 years able to negotiate on your behalf? Your friend of 30 years seems stuck well and truly in the middle. How about you get a piece of paper, write down what it is you want to say, get it right for you, then write a purposeful, factual letter and ask her for a direct reply. Your friend may not have the ability to find out for you what you need. Worth a try?
2006-07-15 00:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by silentium aqualis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe she had the nerve to sack you after you and your mate started the business together. How did that one happen? I would still be friends with your mate just stay away from the women as she seems strange. She should trust her hubby as they are married and have children. She must know that you and your mate have been friends for so long so she has nothing to worry about. She needs to have a look at hersef. And for your mate he needs to sort her out treating you like this. I would not have it
2006-07-14 09:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your friend set up the business, how did she ever get the power to sack you, and why would your best friend let that happen?
Time to spread your wings and make some new friends.
2006-07-14 09:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by sarah c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are just too stubborn and will not want to make any effort to get along. if this is the case for your friends wife and she is like this then you are best just keeping your distance because anything you do will turn into something bad. its good you understand the situation your friend is in and your not making the situation complicated for him. after all, its better for you to still have your friend in your life than not at all right? just hang in there and dont let yourself get down about it
2006-07-14 09:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by roundtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have something in common with her thats a great start if you fancy her the thats a bad start and could lead to you losing your mate ! remember she has an interest in your mate as well as you , and she could possibly feel that you two share something that she has no part of ! you could try and involve her and even ask her if she has any issues with you ! , try and reassure her of your intensions , without sounding sexiest some (not all ) women can get very possesive and very paranoid over fiends and that goes for guys as well hope this helps !
Terry............................
2006-07-14 09:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by terrystoner1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk seriously and openly with your friend. It's important that you tell him how much your friendship means to you but also to emphasize how you feel about his wife interrfering in your friendship. It's up to him to talk to her.
2006-07-14 09:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid the harpy!!!!
Just go out with your mate, and keep out of her way!!!
Sheesh, your mate deserves a medal!!!
2006-07-14 09:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u can stay away from him and let him do wats right and just try to help him get rid of her
2006-07-14 09:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥♣BABY GIRL♥♥♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat her, like you treat her best friend
2006-07-14 09:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by russellhamuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋