How do you stop the arguments in a Relationship?

Question

My partner and I have a wonderful relationship, we both know we were meant for each other. At times we get along better than best friends, other times it is just pure hell in arguments. What is a good way to solve this, we both want it to work. We want to try something other than a therapist. PLEASE HELP, the arugments are over petty things. Im really scared that it will hurt our relationship.

Answer 1

Someone is going to have to just SHUT UP!!! And I do not mean that in a cold and callus way. I know at first it will be VERY hard, maybe feel near to impossible but give this a try: YOU stop arguing............be silent....unless of course it TRULY matters over something IMPORTANT. Words can destroy a relationaship.

Men are wired to "conquer" when you are comfrontational with them, they WILL be confrontational back.....its in thier makeup. Don't be yet another thing in his life he has to conquer.......be a quiet source of refuge for his heart................

try it, I am almost 100% positive you will find not only success, but a deeper, stronger husband/wife relationship.

Answer 2

I was told that there is a Chinese way of removing negative energy from the house and that is to put salt in a glass and keep it in the southwestern corner of your room.They say that it will absorb negative energies from the house.The other way is to be frank and put a stop to the argument by telling that too much argument will lead to bad relationship instead of ironing out differences.It is very difficult to change anybody through arguments however reasonable and logical the arguments may be

Answer 3

It takes two for an argument over something petty to get that big. If you don't like it, stop doing it. Sounds like both of you are insisting on being right instead of agreeing to disagree.

Answer 4

Don't be scared, it's quite normal to have differences especially over petty stuff, I do to with my Hubby. The most important thing is that you always talk things out becuse if you don't then, it will just build up over time and that's when to worry. But, just be thankful that their over petty things. I'm sure there's worse out there!!

Answer 5

Sometimes, you just have to walk away and cool down. It als o helps to deal with a problem before it blows up. Also understand that it is healthier to disagree than to never argue at all. My husband and I are the same way, we are passionate about everything, including our disagreements. Sit down together and come up with rules for agruing, then write them down so when they get broken during the fight, you can say, no we agreed not to do this.

Answer 6

This is totally normal, arguements build character in a relationship, i would worry if you didnt argue now and then, all you can do is try to not be so pig headed and stubborn, and have your partner do the same!

Answer 7

I have the same situation. and this sounds really cheesy and stupid but, if an argument gets too out of hand i just go up to him and kiss him and hug him and say lets stop before it gets worse.

Answer 8

Sometimes we have to just look at a situaation and ask our selves what are we doing wrong not what are they doing wrong. what can I do to change the situation? What am I doing wrong? Sometimes our reactions to some6thing said or done can spark up an argument so examine yourself.

Answer 9

Be the bigger person and let it go. Someone has to be selfless; the other partner will follow.

Answer 10

SOMEONE HAS TO GIVE IN OR BE THE ONE TO SAY: HEY WE HAVE TO STOP THIS, LETS JUST TALK ABOUT THIS SITUATION WITH UNDERSTANDING.