divorced 5 kids married 11 years, ex income up 4x, in 4 years, already receive big $ alimony, can i get more?

Question

even though i receive child support and alimony, (which most people would find substantial) am i entitled to more money based upon my ex income quadradupled, in the last few years.
i have 5 young children in school, i am a homemaker, and have not worked in 14 years. i supported my ex and put him through law school, there was no mony at the time of the divorce to split, but as stated did receive good settlement in alimony, although what seems like small amounts of child support?

Answer 1

This is why I feel sorry for men!

You already receive child support and alimony (which is the most stupid thing ever!), and you're still not happy. So what if he's making more now - good for him! Just because he's better off now does not mean you should go digging for more than you're already getting.

Maybe its time, after 14 years, that you do start working again.

Answer 2

so your the gold digger that most men talk about. The ex that doesn't care about any one but them self and how to hurt the man, because they hurt you. It sounds so pity that you cant be happy without hurting someone else, maybe that is the reason he broke it off with you. If you want money, then get off of your a ss and work. most females of today are so lazy. They think they shouldn't work, But those children are your also. In a way you have to play child support also. Everything is 50/50 you are 50%responesble for the child and same as he. The money that he send to you is for the child and not for the females to get there hair done and buy new clothing. So since most child support of the money get spent for what it isn't being used for, I would say that child support needs to be remove from the females and protected by the courts and that the female needs to tell where the money is use and what for.

Answer 3

I'm not a lawyer (and you ought to go see one), but my understanding of alimony is that you have the right to live by the means to which you had become accustomed. When you were married, he didn't have that much money, so you weren't accustomed to his having that much. I doubt you'd be able to get more through the courts. And it kind of makes me sick that you're trying.

If the guy cares about his kids, maybe you can ask him to put away some more money out of his own volition now that he does make more, but otherwise, why do you feel you have any right to his money? You may have paid for law school, but he's the one who went to school, hit the books, and is now engaged in the practice of law.

Maybe if your divorce lawyer had been clever enough, the alimony agreement could taken into account the fact that you did pay for his education and would somehow be entitled to readjustments as his pay rises. But I would be shocked and upset if you have any right to it now.

Answer 4

Wow! Everyone is so mean here and you don't deserve it. Forget the meanies that are telling you to get off your lazy ***. How could anyone call raising 5 kids sitting on your lazy ***. It's a full time job and then some! And with all those kids it wouldn't make sense for you to work outside the home. Daycare, etc would eat up your whole salary! I don't know anything about the legal side of it, but I just wanted to give you some encouragement after all the mean answers. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

Generally the Friend of the Court will only review a case every two years unless you can prove that there has been a substantial change in circumstances.

If it has been two years since your last income review, simply request that the FOC do one. If it has been less than two years you will probably need to show them some proof of the substantial change in circumstances, and even then they only may review it.

You can also petition the Circut Court judge directly but you will require the same level of proof as you would to convince the FOC to do it.

Talk to your FOC casemanager for specific advice.
Good luck!

Answer 6

I have to assume, you, and your children, are doing fairly well, since you say you are already getting a substanial amount of not only child support but alimony as well? I suppose, if you are a money hungry sort who wants all they can get out of a man...then you will probably get it. Most like you do. While those that truly need it, don't. Go figure.

Answer 7

You can petition the courts to modify your spousal or child support. These are the only 2 things you can have the courts change once the divorce is final. There is no guarantee though but you have nothing to lose and with the cost of everything going up,you should have no problem. You may have to prove you really need the extra support but that should be no problem either, so just do it. good luck

Answer 8

You can probably get more child support if he is making more money now than when the first order of support was done...the question is, are you looking for more money because you need it to care for your children, or are you just trying to be spiteful and take from him (you did mention that you receive a substantial amount of money already!)

Answer 9

Yes, you can ask for the amount to be reconsidered, but bear in mind, it could also go down, even though his income has tripled. Do you need it? If so, and you can prove the need, go for it, but if you don't need it, and your lives are doing well financially, you might consider asking him if he would consider putting some away for their college educations in addition to alimony/child support. If you have a good relationship.

Answer 10

believe it or not, each state has their own rules about this. I'm sure they are similar in most respects, but not the same. The lawyer advise is good but you should use caution on which one you talk to about this. In fact, if your ex gets wind of what you are thinking about, as a lawyer he can take steps to protect himself if he has not allready.
The lawyer you talk to should be:
someone that either dislikes him very much
or is in a different county from his

You must be cautious with your selection.
Lawyers have a buddy system too.