Should i say it first to my boyfriend or should he say it first? ive said it first b4 but idk. im sry im just really confused. I dont want to sound stupid.
2006-07-14 08:50:52 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Let him say it.
Btw- Try not to abuse/over use the word, it cheapens it....some people will have less respect for you or for the word if they hear you using it frivolously.
2006-07-14 08:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell you what..I have had that happen before with the girl which i had the longest relationship to date...it went like this....please read, it is long but you will have insight i guarantee
We had been together 5 months and all was good and then after sex the one weekend we were horse playing and we fell on the bed and she says out of the blue " I Love You ".....I freaked inside and she saw it in my eyes, she could tell she made a mistake and that i was freaked about it. It was awkward the moment after that and I honestly did not allow myself to get so close to her because of the fact I was on duty and knew I had no control over my deployments so a permanent relationship at the time seemed impossible.
I felt terrible for her and I knew she had being hurt too. I could not lie and reply " I love you too" because I knew once i did she would accept that as practical marriage...i didn't even want to say sorry because I wanted her to have at least some shred of pride in her fragile heart after that moment and the way i made her feel.
The relationship took a new direction from that day on and believe me it was nothing bad..in fact we became closer because of the intense moment we shared and the knowledge that we could not be together forever. I was with her for 3 1/2 years before I was deployed in another country indefinitely and we broke up. we still keep in touch and we have moved on but we will forever benchmark our future spouses with each others best qualities.
I don't doubt that you love this boy and I hope he feels the same for you. You will know if he does. Some guys have difficulty in saying the dreaded words " I Love You" so observing reaction and behavior is better from a females point of view.
To answer your question I would have to say that it is a difficult situation and when the time is right say it to him. His reaction will speak more words than the dictionary has in it's entirety. Don't pressure him and wait if you must but sooner or later you will have to come to terms with it. I personally would rather you say it to him than ask him if he loves you..that way he must deal with the statement, rather than asking a question where he can sidestep.
I hope it all works out Hon.
2006-07-14 16:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by KaizerSose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have said that word a couple of times and I have come to find out I didn't REALLY mean it. Do you REALLY love him or are you just going to say it because he does? This is important to know because if you say it at the wrong time you might mess up the relationship. Don't say it unless you MEAN IT! If you said it before chances are you didn't mean at all. So let your heart decide for itself and if your not ready don't say it!
2006-07-14 15:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what love means? Really?? You are both kids and have the slightest clue what love is all about. Stop trying to be grown already.
2006-07-14 15:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not be ready to go that far yet. how long have you been together? you may make him feel pressured to love you back, and now since you know you love him, just wait for him, boys often take more time to love a person, no matter how much they mean to them.
2006-07-14 15:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lynne Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I you feel that way go ahead and tell him. If your worried what if he will say it back, well that is chance that you have to take. Don't stress over it so much and it will come easier. Do what you feel and you will be fine.
2006-07-14 15:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by katierose18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you feel like you are in love, then say it. He might feel the same way and feel a lot better if you say it first. Plus, if you don't say it, you might regret it.
2006-07-14 15:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by cows4me79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u truly love him than say it. but make sure its true for u first. but make sure it is love not lust
how old are you? that will also make a differnence cause teens dont normaly love a person thay just think it love but its actuly lust witch hides its self as love so..
but if u truly love him tell him who cares who ays it first if u love him tell him
2006-07-14 15:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm let see i think u shudnt i think u shud ask him how does he feel bout u and ask does he love u and if he says yea then ask him will he be scared 2 say it
2006-07-16 18:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by shawneeboo13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u say it make sure u mean it. if u really want to then like, start out with "luv ya!", then go yo "love u" then go to "i love u" it works and the guy wont feel like he is being pressured or anything.
2006-07-14 16:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by tasha+sean=luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋