for guys only please...?

Question

why do most guys care so much about the phycal apperance of a wonan when they know that the woman's good looks will fade in a few years?
Wouldn't you be happier if you loved a woman for who she is?

tim d
you are such a perfect example of a superficial guy. so what if i made a typo.
Doesn't mean i'm not a perfectly nice person.

Answer 1

I agree

I don't really care about if my future is a good looking for not, but I just want her to be a nice person with good personalities. Pretty girls at 20 years old are gonna turn ugly as they get older anyway. And if those hot girls have a bad personality , then I don't think you would want to live with them for the rest of your lives. You marry some one who you would like to live with for the rest of your lives. You don't want to live with a ***** do you? Hot girls are only good for sexual relationships but not long term relationships.

Inconclusion, I don't care if people say that my future wife is ugly and stuff as long as I am happy about living with her. But one thing though, I don't want my future wife to be extremely ugly, afterall, guys like pretty girls.

Answer 2

Ahh, the question of the ages. I think in today's time, when the sanctity of marriage is at rock bottom, it becomes a much broader question with more implications. But I think all in all looking at just your question as it is stated is an interesting one, that even myself being a married guy has trouble with understanding. It is not that I have to worry about the answer, but I will have kids too and still the answer is elusive.

I think in the end if you are talking about true love, than most guys eventually get the good looking woman that is true love to them, not just any good looking girl. What I mean is that a guy may go for the hot girl but won't stay with her if he finally gets to the meat of the relationship and finds it isn't working, and he will move on. Now granted, we guys will compromise a lot on other things to keep the hot girl and some even marry without ever weeding through the real important stuff. Here is where women excel. In high school, girls do the same thing as guys, they go after the hunk of a guy. But women seem to wise up quicker and go after more substantial things later in their life (like money . . . ha, just kidding, come one lighten up), which is why waiting for awhile before getting married can be important. This is also where the smart guys like myself get lucky. I waited till I was 27 to get married. At this point, all the hot women had wised up, had lowered their standards of looks in men, and were willing to compromise more on an equality in the relationship. Thus, I got my beautiful women who also happens to be a great person and a tremendous wife.

But women play the game too. Women get looking pretty hot in their younger years to attract a guy, because of our nature of going after physical apperance too much, and then when they marry, they ALLOW themselves to have fading looks. Child rearing and age don't take as hard a toll on our bodies (guys included on the age part) as do donuts, pizza, fat, and sitting around doing nothing.

But I digress. The answer to the first question is that guys are raised from a young age to pursue the woman. Not to get primitive on you and no, I am not comparing a woman to these things, but just like going after your food or a car or a house, who goes after the ugliest one??? A man going after a woman based on physical appearance is not wrong, as long as they eventually do the right and smart thing later in the relationship. Physical apperance is important, just as long as we remember that beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder and we can't take it out on someone else if their eye just isn't encaptured by you.

Second question I think I answered with my monologue in one way or another. In the end, if we are talking about "true" love, than yes, the man will be happier in the end with loving the woman and who she really is.

Answer 3

There are lots and lots of factors regarding this question.One thing I have discovered over the last 10 years of marriage is that even after you marry, you may still have to get to know your spouse and love is a learning process, and that takes time. The world today is very visual and very impatient. It is a huge boost to a guys ego if he's dating a hot girl. In many cases I've seen in regards to younger people recently (the last 4 or 5 years) the here and now overrides the long term planning and sadly in many cases, common sense. Commitment, long term, is a scary concept to a lot of folks these days.

Answer 4

I don't think a woman's looks will fade in a few years, many years, yes, a few no. But, yes, it is sort of bad that looks play an important part in a guy's decision making process, but it also works both ways.

Answer 5

NO you just keeping trading them in for a newer younger model. You know the same as we do with cars. No difference a woman or car? Well there is a difference the car is cheaper to maintain. You must have been dumped for a prettier model?

Answer 6

Good question, young lady. Most guys get caught up in being shallow, going for short-term results rather than the long-term. Physical attraction is a good start, but certainly not the be-all, end-all.

Answer 7

It not always about how the woman looks she must have a good personality too then again im not going to go out with a girl who looks like S**t.

Answer 8

beauty is in the eye of the beholder as it was said in the twilight zone, whos to say what is beatiful away? physical beauty is subjective just look at different cultures and their ideals are not all the same.
Idealy one should look towards a persons intangible traits as like you said looks fade with time(unless you pull a cher and continually get facial and other surgery)
guys look towards physical traits because that is what our society trains them to do. Their are impossible standards of beauty for women to reach(think of barbie) look at our popular culture for why they act this way

Answer 9

Its called dating. The physical appearance is to attract a male in the first place, the personality is to keep him.

Answer 10

The best quality I have found in in a a women is her ability to do a decent keg stand, it says alot about her drives and abilities.