I am interested in dating a guy whose divorce was just made final. Should I ask what sparked the divorce.?

Question

He is pursuing and I am thinking about him for long term. Not a fling.

Answer 1

I think you have a right to know. But please remember you are only hearing one side of the story. His version and what really happend could be miles apart. Move slowly, and I would have thought he would have said something to you before now. I would listen carefully, and watch his reactions to what he does say about the marriage and divorce. There could be something that will turn you off with how he handle himself. So, move slowly and make sure for both of your sakes that it is the real thing. Sure hope so, but caution is needed. God bless....

Answer 2

Well, if you are looking into long term relationship, you may want to know that type of thing.
But where is the rush? He will probably share this with you at some point.
Also, you do not need to ask such a straighforward question. See if he is ready to talk about the situation in general (remember, it is painful for him).
Also, you will rarely get a single, clearcut answer. Coming to a divorce is a complex process and there are lots of elements involved. If he has kids, you may want to ask about the kids first, check whether he is in good terms with his ex etc
Good luck to you.

Answer 3

First of all, make sure he's over the past, you do not want to be someone's constellation prize. Second, If you are going to ask him, be prepared for the answer and don't judge him and please make sure that the ex-wife ins't a psycho because you don't need the drama. I've seen that with my family. And remember everyone has a past but what matters is the future and think of it this way, you got the man!!

Answer 4

not on the first date

Answer 5

I am dating a woman in Canada, I am in New York. My divorce is still not yet final but will be by September. If it was not for this woman I do not know where I would be at this time. She is been my rock of gibraltar since we met, I love her deeply and I do want to marry her.

Answer 6

.
When two people in love, allow that love to wane,
it is because one or both of them got lazy, and
let romance die.
The next step, is cheating, instead of giving all the energy to repair the lack of romance problem at home. Stupid !
The next step is getting caught;
and likey divorce ensued.

Men rarely push for divorce.
Both men and women put (the demon) PRIDE before
fixing the marriage.

His marriage landed somewhere, or everywhere in the above. It won't take long to find out.

Then YOU have to ask yourself, will he make his part of the mistakes AGAIN with you in the future?

Go very carefully with a divorced man, who has not been in marriage counseling, and working to fix HIMSELF.
(Same for women).

Take good care of YOUR Heart
stw
.

Answer 7

yes, you should definitely ask. i'm not sure if you are a christian or not, but if you are, the only grounds for marrying a divorced man is if it was adultery that broke them up. otherwise it's said you are an adulteress as well. however, if you aren't a christian and don't care about these things...i think you still deserve to know. it is your business since you might be involved with him. *hug*

Answer 8

It will come out, no need to push the issue. But, it should be brought up during the first date. Let him tell you about it. You may not get the full story, but you might get most of it.

Answer 9

The answer is, it did not work out. If you like the person give them a chance. Don't ask, if they like you, they will eventually tell you.

I am divorced and it sucks being judged.

Answer 10

Yes, what if he was getting divorced because he cheats, or hits women or doesn't put his underwear in the hamper. Find out why this other women is getting rid of him.