me and my husband divorced. we still lived together for two years. then he cheated on me so i left. now he just got remarried last month but he is calling me and says that he wants to be with me. he said that he told her last nite to get her things and leave but i dont know whether to believe him or now. but last nite me and him were together and i know that he loves me but i dont know what he wants
2006-07-14 08:13:00 · 18 answers · asked by miranda b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personally, I would move on. You got divorced for a reason - probably for a variety of reasons. He cheated on you after you were divorced... Why do you want to hang on to him?
Really, there are tons of great guys out there to choose from. Why would you keep going back to the guy who you divorced, left, he's remarried, etc. Find yourself a guy who will treat you right, respect you, and not put you in such uncomfortable positions.
Good luck!
2006-07-14 08:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Only_my_opinion 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is this the type of behavior that shows you your ex is in love with you boy I sure don't want to see how he shows hate.
Good luck with your heart your going to need it if you continue to play a game of cat and mouse with everybody fighting for one piece of cheese your ex.
You know why you don't know what he wants because he doesn't know either.
Problem 1. Your divorce
Problem 2. He cheated on you while you where still living together.
Problem 3. He's married to someone else.
If this was a baseball game he would have enough strikes against him to have struck out.
You play with fire be ready to get burned with your heart up in flames and the only thing you want to put it out is more watery promises from your divorced, cheating, remarried ex did I leave anything out?
2006-07-14 15:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and eat it too. Typical man,wants the best of both worlds but not man enough to make a committment to one. Hes playing a little boys game and shame on you for playing along with him. You two had each other but let go so what makes you think hes knows what he wants now, and whats to stop him from turning around and doing this very same thing with someone else? Words are cheap especially from a cheater, but if it gets him what he wants he will continue to tell you what you want to hear. This is exactly why they were shot in the old west. Dont believe him,tell him to get his *** back home where he belongs. He blew his chance with you before and made his new world so move on and find someone who is worthy of you and respects you for you and share the same dreams. good luck
2006-07-14 15:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, how to be faithful and that he's manipulating you by telling you he loves you and blah blah blah just in order to have sex with you again.
If he cheated on you when you were married and cheated on his new wife with you. Who's to say there aren't even more women involved? What's going to stop him from cheating on you again if you do get back together? You're getting yourself set up in a very bad cycle.
You should stop seeing him in any romantic capacity and give yourself some space. Find yourself someone that loves you and respects you enough to not cheat on you or try to manipulate you. Just keep in mind how you felt when you found out he was cheating on you and now you're putting his new wife in that situation.
Move on.
2006-07-14 15:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by My name is not Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what HE wants - what do YOU want - to be traded in when he feels like it, to be kicked to the curb when he finds a replacement? Seems to me you should both either go your separate ways, or seek counseling to find out if this relationship is worth the risk and the work.
2006-07-14 15:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her. Dont be the other women (even though you came first) She needs to know what he is telling you. My ex did that to me, and I talk to his girl, and found out he was lying, and telling her different things. Be careful. Talk to her yourself, thats better than believing a man.
2006-07-14 15:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, hes yet another one of these men that cant make up their minds. Tell him to shove it, & Im 90% sure he'll be calling up that girl he told to leave & begging her to come home.
2006-07-14 15:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!!! He can't have his cake and eat it too. He already left you twice. He obviously doesn't know what commitment means. She probably left him and he is looking for a woman to fill the hole.
YOU DESERVE BETTER!!! Don't lower yourself for him again!
2006-07-14 15:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get away from this guy. It seems like he has been jerking around your life long enough. He doesn't seem dependable at all. He just can't be with you whenever it is convenient for him.
2006-07-14 15:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by meisa777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha!
How many times do you need to learn your lesson!
First he cheats ON you, then you let him cheat WITH you.
You have some serious problems far worse that a cheating ex.....................
2006-07-14 15:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋