My boyfriend wants me to only be with him & his friends. I had to sneak last night to see my friends and I know that was wrong but now he wants to break up with me. I cannot make him understand how much I love only him & he has to give me some freedon just like I give him freedom.
2006-07-14 08:11:43 · 17 answers · asked by justfrustrated 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're not wrong, he is. If he doesn't trust you now it will only get worse later. Find someone who will respect you because he doesn't.
2006-07-14 08:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you are a young person. From the time you see a man starts showing control, L E A V E. He is not worth half of your love much less all your love. When someone loves you, they will never try to control your life and that is exactly what he is doing when he gets upset and wants to break up just because you went to see your friends. You have no trust in that relationship, so you have nothing. You need trust and respect. He has no class and is worth nothing. You have to love yourself first before you can love others. Always remember to ask yourself what kind of life you would like to live (a happy life or many years of abuse). A controlling person almost always end up being abusive. Just like you found him, you can find someone else you can love and who will respect you and give you the space you need to live your life with him and yet feel your freedom. If he wants to leave you, let him go because if he wants to leave for something simple like that, believe me, he will gradually leave you later for some other stupid reason. Watch all the signs. He is not trying to work with you on the relationship, he just quickly say he wants to break up. He is showing you right now that he does not love you. He would only stick around because you are probably the only thing he can control in his life and that is what makes him feel powerful. He has no control on his own life. Once you let him control your life, you will not be able to take that back. It will be all over. Good luck to you. I am sure you will make the right choice.
2006-07-14 15:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to sneak around to be with your Friends or to have fun then you really don't have a relationship with that person. i would get out of that relationship. move on. i know a person that had a relationship like that and every day she lost her self. you are a strong person. and you don't need anyone one to tell you what is right and wrong. look around you and see other relationship. a couple can do things together or by them self if you believe in each other then that is trust and a relationship
2006-07-14 15:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by bootsygirl34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...being that controlling is NO good, it only causes for more serious problems later like physical or emotional abuse...girl if I were you I would get out as quick as you can and hang with YOUR friends! DO NOT let a man control your life! If you do you are weak, be a strong independent women!
2006-07-14 15:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then he is a controlling freak, and in my opinion, you need to dump him. If he is this controlling now, how do you think he will be when you are married to him? I've seen guys that write down the mileage and the time when their girlfriends go to the store, and won't even let them see their own family. It just keeps getting worse and worse. Trust me, you don't need this drama in your life. A relationship is 50/50......any less than that and it's not fair. Best of luck to you..........
2006-07-14 15:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT give up your freedom for this guy---it should wave a big red flag when someone does this to you, to get away from him quickly before you are trapped to him. Even if you feel you love him---you shouldn't love someone who treats you this way and doesn't consider your feelings. He sounds very controlling and I can tell it will only get worse!
2006-07-14 15:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by charyl92678 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you with such a jerk? Kick him to the curb. You have to sneak around to see your friends, that's just wrong. You have a right to see whoever you want. What's next, you aren't allowed to see your family? Get out of this sick relationship before it escalates to violence.
2006-07-14 15:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, explain your side, and be understanding when listening to his side. As adults, we don' t "give" each other freedom in a relationship - we are equal and do as we wish, respecting the other's needs and wants.
2006-07-14 15:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he's a MCP. I used to have this problem too. Guess you really have to sit down and talk it out with him if you really love him. Let him know love is about trusting too.. You have to have your own private time and time with friends as well. If not, you have to just live with it..unless you choose to leave him..
2006-07-14 15:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh if he does not even let you see your female friends he is a control freak and a slave driver. Leave him immediately. And warn other girls about him. He is evil he will probably start spreading nasty rumors about you once you leave him. I am sure Hitler and Saddam were the same when they were young.
2006-07-14 15:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by jercha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋