WE HAVE BEEN GOING OUT FOR 4 MONTHS AND HE WANTZ ME TO MOVE IN WITH HIM WHICH I WANT BUT THATS NOT THE PROBLEM. THE PLOBLEM IS THAT I LIVE WITH MY PARENTS. IM 20 YRS OLD HE IS 21YRS OLD WE LOVE EACH OTHER BUT IM AFRAID OF WHAT MY PARENTS ARE GOING TO SAY. WHAT SHOULD I DO IF THEY DONT AGREE WITH MY DECISION.
2006-07-14 08:06:46 · 17 answers · asked by shygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
screw them, you're a woman now and your life is your decision. i understand that you love your parents and want them to accept your decision, but at the same time just dont worry about what they have to say. if later on in the relationship after you move in with him and the 2 of u break up and the situation come that you have to move back in with your parent then do so. your parents may not agree with it by you have to make your own mistajkes and learn from them, and that's their job to let you learn that lesson for yourself.
good luck, i hope you make the decision yourself and not your parents!
2006-07-14 08:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by i love NOLA! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey i am 20 also. i moved out of my parents house and into my own house with roomates when i was 19. when a bad situation arose i ended up moving in with my boyfriend who was only 18 at the time and we had only been dating for less than a month. if you love each other and in your heart you believe that this is the right decison then do it. It will be rough I will just let you know that. My parents were furious with my decision at the time. But they love me and my boyfriend and have accepted my decision even though they may not be happy about it. So if your parents love you and know how much your boyfriend and you care for each other then they should understand even though it may take them some time to get used to it. hope all goes well. God Bless!
2006-07-14 08:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Katie*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXXXXXX you are 20. Old enough to make your own decisions. In your parents home they make the rules. It's time you go out and create your own life outside of the home of your parents. They may not like it, but have they liked everything you've done or every decision you ever made. Stop making excuses and start acting 20. You are a woman now. Stop hanging on to the apron strings. i'm sure you don't agree with a lot of things your parents are doing or with some of their friends. That's live. That's what makes us individuals. It's not your parents decision. It's yours. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-14 08:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult now. You should explain it to them , but they can't really stop you. It is your decision to make, but just make sure you are making the right one. People change after you move in together. You will notice things that the other person does that might really bother you. Also sometimes when you are with a person a lot you tend to bicker a little more so be ready to have some natural fights or disagreements.
2006-07-14 08:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by sftballgrl48328 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
You are over 18 so legally you are responsible for yourself however if your parents believe in biblical values than they most liekly will nto agree with you moving in together. I am sure you have already done the deedd with him so for you it is not an issue but moving in kinda tells the world that you are, and that can be hard for parents to handle. How do they think of this guy tou are with. Even thoguh you may be in love love can be blind. they know you the best and their advice woudl be very good to take.
On another note, don't move form your folks to your BF. You need to move out and get on your own and live life and not be tied down. Have bf, sure, but don't live with him.. There are amillion lessons to be learned form living on your own.
2006-07-14 08:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by trialtoid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents dont own you. You are a full grown adult capable of making your own decisions,but having said that.. Maybe their concerns might have reason. You need to be open and not bull headed should they disagree with your choice.
Personally, I totally disagree with shacking up without the marriage certificate. Its against everything I stand for.
The worst thing you can do is move in with a guy against your parents wishes... break up and try to cry on your parents shoulder or worse yet..ask to move back in with your parents when things dont work out. Talk about eating crow! Is it worth putting a possible rift between you and your parents?
Please rethink your idea. Please!
2006-07-14 08:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to explain why they don't like it. It's probably good reasoning. On the other hand, you're 20 and old enough to take care of yourself if you can handle ticking off the folks.
My son wanted to move into the small house I have in the back when he was out of school. I made him put all the utilities in his name. He moved back in after a few months.
2006-07-14 08:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally I would wait a bit longer but your over 18 so legally their opinion dosen't really matter but they might tell you if you move out that you can't come back if it dosen't work out in a few months so I would really take in to consideration if your ready to be on your own for good. If it were my daughter I would really try to talk her out of it and if she were still adament about it I would tell her not to come running to me if it dosen't work. So if you are ready for that possibility that they might not let you move back in then go for it if not don't, either way legal age for most things is 18 so I don't really think they can keep you at home forcefully.
2006-07-14 08:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by life as we know it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four months is not very long, but if you two are paying your own bills, your parents can't stop you from moving in with him. Could you wait long enough for the two of you to get stabile financially?
2006-07-14 08:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents mean best and you should listen to them. 4 months is very fast to move in together especially at your age.
2006-07-14 08:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by kong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋