I was recently confided in by a very good friend of mine. She is happily married to her long time boyfriend of 5 years. He has recently shown an interest in having things shoved in his anal area when there intimate in the bedroom. He has even suggested that she buy's a strap on to wear. She she be concearned with his sexuality?
2006-07-14 08:03:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No sorry i don't have problems like this, I haven't seen my husband since May, he's in Iraq, but thanks anyways!
2006-07-14 08:14:30 · update #1
She feels that since this topic has all of the sudden came up, he might be turning the other way.
2006-07-14 08:38:08 · update #2
I dont think she should worry too much the best way to get a man is when is about to blow take a fingure and of course better off with lube but put in, it drives them over the edge sometime they cant finish or go down(cant stop blowin) youd be surprised on how many men actually feel comfortable enough with their own sexuality and with their partner to have this done, but this means she broke that withhim,
2006-07-14 08:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoying anal stimulation has nothing to do with being gay. Being gay means you are attracted to other men. I'm not saying she shouldn't be concerned, I'm just saying that she shouldn't use that as the only evidence. Allowing your lover to use a strap-on on you is more about enjoying the anal stimulation, totally trusting the person you are with, and maybe enjoying being a tad submissive. Normally during sex, the man usually plays the more dominant role, but it can be quite enjoyable to play the more submissive role also - my gf and I take turns being "in control" and this opens up a lot of new things for us to experiment with. I sense from your question that your friend may not be comfortable with all of this, and if that is the case then it could be a problem, sexual acts should always be consensual and mutually enjoyable .......... so if he is obsessed with it and she isn't open to it, then yes, it is a problem.
I would suggest she trying looking at it as an act of openness and maybe even a desire for him to be a little submissive, and see if she can accept and enjoy that part of it. But she absolutely should not feel guilty if she is not comfortable with it.
Lastly, of course it is possible he has sexuality issues or may even be closeted gay. They should figure out a way to deal with that issue honestly. But don't assume anything just because of the strap-on desires.
2006-07-14 10:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by mikeallen555555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, wow, turning the other way....
Listen: #1 - if he's turned on by his wife then he's not gay. You don't "turn" the other way as if bitten by Dracula or something.
Many Gay men don't even like to be penetrated at all. So, you can't go there.
However, men that like it, enjoy it because of several possible reasons.
First: the physical - men have a prostate gland, that can only be reached by anal penetration.
Second: Giving up control - allowing the one you love to penetrate you, in a sense, dominate you, can be very satisfying. Especially for someone that has had to be the "tough" one his entire life. She should take this as compliment. he feels so secure with her that he wants to GIVE IN completely and submit to her completely!
Lastly: (this is just a possibility) Some men like to take that a bit further and be a total Submissive to their female. Complete ROLE reversal for a period of "play time". They love women so much, that they want to be one for a period of time. Only with other women though. I may be losing you here, but hang with me. Like 95% of Transvestites are totally straight.
So, for her to be concerned is rubbish.
She should get the strap-on and some frilly panties. Shave him up and put it to him, butt good. I bet he returns the favor TEN FOLD.
Cheers
play safe and have fun
2006-07-19 13:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cherry Stems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether her husband is gay or straight, the area right around there is very sensitive. It has a lot of nerve endings. It doesn't make him gay to want to explore. She should feel honored that he is opening up this way and exposing such an intimate side of himself with her. She shouldn't be getting worried. Men can find it sexually arousing to be turned on by that. Women like men to go down on us, does that make us Lesbians? No, it doesn't.
2006-07-14 09:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by sixspdsxdrv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. If they have the kind of relationship where he is comfortable telling her that and she is being honest with her reaction, I think its fine. Sexuality is a very complicated thing. Americans are so afraid of really enjoying all that God has given us to enjoy sexually. The anal area is a very erongenous zone. Most men don't even come close to having a "life altering" orgasim because they refuse to have their wife or girlfriend touch them there. I am married and my wife stimulates me anally and it is incredible. I hope they enjoy it!
2006-07-14 08:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Quincy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coool,but i do think she should voice her concerns to him if she hasnt already done so.Quite a hard one for her tho.
Is she a confident person?if so,will be easier to go down that road without her doubting his,or even her own sexuality!!
Be warned,it can be a very intense orgasm so he will probably be a bit greedy/selfish for a little while so i would keep it as a special treat when he,s been a good boy.
Good luk & njoy.x
2006-07-19 13:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by skoozme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with this kind of behavior. That is perfectly natural. When their anal area is "being pleasured", it is easier for a man to have an orgasm. He will have a strong orgasm and thoroughly enjoy it. It has nothing to do with his sexuality. So enjoy!!!! Strap one on!!
2006-07-14 08:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion is no she shouldn't be concerned with his sexuality; a lot of men & women explore sexuality further & deeper in depth using sex toys to spice up the sex. there are men that enjoy have women insert fingers, thermometers, dildos into them anally. if two people are consenting adults & she is open-minded & is willing to please her man then she should do this for him. he in turn should fulfill her sexual needs,desires, fantasies, fetishes as well.
does this woman friend of yours have a concern that he might be gay or is thinking this ? you haven't been very specific in this area ?
2006-07-14 08:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by amtrakcafe2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is just being open with her... so what if he likes like stuff? That is where men have the most nerve endings and therefore has a lot of feeling... he's open to new things.
2006-07-14 08:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by TheFlyingGoat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't necessarily mean he's gay. Maybe he just wants to experiment with anal insertion with his wife and is not interested in men at all.
2006-07-15 08:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by cryptoscripto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋