I’m a guy in love with my girl friend. I have one problem that I know I need to improve on. I have trouble having my girl friend understand what I’m saying when I talk to her. I can tell my girl friend doesn’t often understand me when I talk to her. I understand men and women have a different style in talking/listening/understanding. What could I do to make my girl friend understand me better when I explain things to her? How could I explain things in her style of language so she understands? Tips and suggestions would be greatly appreciated because I want to see this relationship work.
2006-07-14 07:36:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Maybe after you talk to her, ask her to echo back to you in her words what she understood you saying? It's not so much that she's not understanding you, and maybe no fault in how you are talking to her, or even how she's interpreting what you're saying, but the two of you combined together, and how you are communicating with each other that may be the problem. Yes, men and women are different, and they can communicate differently, using different styles. You may find that no matter how you phrase your speech, use different inflections in your voice, that the ultimate message she receives is not at all how it is implied. A careful system of checks and balances regularly can keep you both linked together on the same page. Good luck to you both!
2006-07-14 07:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't specify what she's having difficulty understanding. Are you sure these are really topics she is interested in having explained to her? Perhaps she's just being polite? Men don't have the market cornered on that "tune out" routine. When my husband explained string theory I was interested for the first ten minutes... after that he was enjoying the sound his own voice and I was mentally redecorating the living room. *grin*
2006-07-14 15:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh..the joys of the communication barriers between men and women.
I think the best thing to do is sit down with her and just tell her how much she means to you. Tell her how wonderful you think she is. That will catch her attention and open up her mind enough that she might be more responsive to what you say.
All women love flattery. Especially if it is sincere
2006-07-14 14:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some things left better off unexplained... like any of our thoughts feelings or emotions towards anything our g/f/wives/concubines may want to know...
Sometimes you have to know when to pick and choose your battles.. if you want the conversation to be brief, dont have it at all... if you need to talk about something, be ready to talk about it... a lot...
2006-07-14 15:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by Big Poppa Pump 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her tell you in her words what she heard you say. Then if this is not what you meant be open enough to try using other words to say the same thing. Sometimes it is not what you say, but how you say it and truthfully what we hear.
Good luck
2006-07-14 16:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by doicu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do you both speak the same language? if so may be you should write it down let her study it. can she read? are you making sense or just bull shi**ing her? good luck
2006-07-14 14:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure she didn't grow up in a trailer? =P We all understand you... so assuming you didn't pick the brightest crayon in the box.
2006-07-14 16:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by L ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what EXACTLY are you trying to get her to understand? Maybe its too complicated for her to understand period....
2006-07-14 14:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by peaceandlove. ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what type of communication does she respond to best? This is your responsibility to know.
2006-07-14 14:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by truthyness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋