2006-07-14 07:30:22 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I once heard the following phrase: "It doesn't matter where you whet your appetite, just as long as you eat at home."
Looking is fine. There's nothing wrong with appreciating the beauty that is around us, be it a member of the opposite sex, a member of the same sex, a car, a painting, a tree, whatever. There is beauty everywhere that we overlook everyday.
That being said, have some decency when you are with your spouse and try not to stare at others.
Flirting is OK, as long as there is no intent behind the flirt. I am a tremendous flirt I have been told, yet 90% of the time I am not even aware I am doing it. The other 10% of the time is totally for fun.
You say you are "game for a brief romance". "Game" for it is one thing, actually acting on it is another. Doesn't sound like you have acted on it, which is good. If you have, that would definitely be cheating.
You need to really evaluate your feelings and your relationship. You also need to talk with your spouse about your feelings. Not easy to do, but necessary. Chances are pretty good they know that you are looking and flirting.
The first step was acknowledging how you feel. Now you must begin to deal with it. It won't be easy, and it can take a long time (think years) for *both* of you to work through it all. Hopefully it will strengthen your relationship, but as with most things in life, there are no guarantees.
Good luck, and tread carefully.
2006-07-14 12:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Dion V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not normal. You just want your cake and eat it too. Grow up and learn to respect the sanctity of marriage. If you are game for a brief romance, then you are not happily married - you are happily cheating!
2006-07-14 14:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Boricua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal for a person to like to look at the opposite sex. Your wife probably likes to look at guys just like you like to look at women. What is not normal is your desire to have "brief romances". That is cheating and you promised your wife that you wouldn't do it when you took your marriage vows. Either admit that you are a liar and cheat, or quit cheating! Good Luck
2006-07-14 14:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋