I've been dating my current boyfriend for about a month and I really really like him, Im kinda of afraid its going to turn into love. I know ur prolly like "well why is that’s so bad?"..it is cuz he told me that’s he dosnt fall in love. I don’t doubt that he cares for me I just don’t think were both looking for the same thing in the relationship.
2006-07-14 07:27:59 · 31 answers · asked by lilnewyorkluv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
u go and fuc him u put his #$%^ in your %^&^$ naaahhh just playing big sis talk 2 him i think he just said it from the way ive seen yall i think yall gone be together but its only been a month ur not sure till its a bit more time cause u never know he might be tryna be playing hard 2 get but now yall are goin out and kind of serious talk 2 him and then put his $#%@ in your *&^# lol jp
2006-07-14 10:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by jason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered own question. If you are not looking for the same thing in a relationship; why are the two of you together in the first place? But believe it or not you don't always control your feelings. He may say that because he has never experienced real love and does not know what it is or maybe even possible he's been hurt and has given up on love.
If you choose to stay with him let things run it's own course.
2006-07-14 14:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by tasgilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you pretty much answered your own question. Your not looking for the same thing in the relationship.
He wants something which is simple and more of a friends basis, which i completely agree with. I think darling, you have to think a bit about what love is because ill tell you, its not the magical fantasy sort of love you might like. Maybe sometimes it is, i dont disregard that, but most of the time its a struggle. It seems to me your wanting something too much from him and the relationship and that infact, its not HIM that you love the idea of. Its the fantasy magical relationship.
True love is making people happy. And making yourself happy.
2006-07-14 14:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... how does he know? maybe he just hasn't fallen in love YET. if you really do love him, you are doing so unconditionally... and that leads to expecting him to do the same. tell him you are in this for commitment and love, and if he doesn't WANT that, then it's best to move on and find someone who does. =T if he says he's willing to try, it's a risk both of you are willing to take. but i say it's better to love and lost, then never to have loved at all. u'll never know until you try, but just remember if u try you MIGHT get hurt!! that's why you need to remind yourself later not to become jaded.. every new relationship has *potential* to be good. you have to know what you expect in a relationship from your partner, and how you want to be treated.. if you feel he is disregarding, disrespecting, or just non commital...he's not satisfying you emotionally, and making you feel SECURE. and in the end that's not a good relationship, even if you love him 100%.
2006-07-14 14:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, who said that he is not falling in love? Maybe he didn't fall in love yet, but for him showing a care for you and your relationship conitnued for a time then it means that something good could turn out, maybe he told you so because he did'nt know you well but i assure that in a while he will tell you that he changed his mind and so on, you just be cool, nothing to be afraid of, fall in love normally and then as long as you to go well together then both of you are going to be loving each other, and in the end, good luck
2006-07-14 14:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that easy 2 stop liking someone. Love is a dangerous and mysterious thing.It's not to be messed with.He says he doesn't fall in love. THATS BULL @^*!. If he cares for you is that not love? What is the excat definition of love? Is it just a form of extreme desire, lust mabey? To spend every waking hour with that special person. Stay in the relationship longer and see what happens. You may be surprised.
2006-07-14 14:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by hothog2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard 1 well see the only way i 2 4 get about him unless ur looking 4 a broken heart u can love sum 1 but if the feeling isn't mutual it's always gunna hurt n da end
2006-07-14 14:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by sexy 916 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it more time you've only been with him for a month. us girl's know when it's love the first time we go out with the guy, but guys it takes more time. they start coming around after 6 months or so. if you think you and him are right for each other then stick with it for alittle while more....
p.s i wouldnt bring up the love part you might scare him away but I think you should talk to him just to see where this relationship is headed. good luck!!
2006-07-14 14:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by MICHELLY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. Listen to what he is telling you. People always disclose their true intentions--if you listen. With that said, go with the flow. Ease up a bit... a month is not enough time to tell if you really like someone. In about eight months, ask the question again.
2006-07-14 14:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by Darth Plagueis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing you can really do except take time to get over him and find some one else that is looking for what you are in a relationships! it is really hard but you eventually get over him!!! and there's telling how long it will take but it might just take days or months!!! I wish you the best of luck to figure all of this out!!
2006-07-14 14:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋