I have not met her . She doesn't want me to meet her son. In the emails she say really terrible things about my partner (I think she thinks it will put me off, but i will make up my own mind about him), but also says she still loves him. I know she wants to get back with him. He tells me that she just wants to break us up: he thinks it is best not to respond at all, but is happy for me to do whatever I feel is right. She keeps asking if he and i are really an item. I haven't responded...and now she has sent me two emails. Am I doing the right thing?
2006-07-14 07:23:32 · 31 answers · asked by janey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes don't respond and get her emails blocked if you can. do not engage with her in any way. your involvement with her begins and ends with your partner. she is his responsibility not yours. don't read anymore of her messages and get your head out of the drama. most women have this kind of problem with men's ex at some point. she's nothing to do with you and if she has a problem about you meeting her child then she must resolve that with your partner not you. be strong and keep her out of your head.
2006-07-14 12:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by minerva 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well...I definitely wouldn't encourage her to keep emailing you or start a friendship up or anything...don't get too buddy buddy with her...it sounds like she only wants to cause trouble!
I would only respond to the email if you feel comfortable in doing so and as long as your boyfriend doesn't mind. If you do respond, I would put it very clearly and bluntly that YES you two ARE an item and you really don't appreciate hearing her badmouth your boyfriend, what's in the past between those two should stay in the past AND between JUST those two. Make certain that she knows you feel this way....you need to concentrate on YOUR relationship with your boyfriend...I understand that the two of them do have a child together...so....you will have contact with that part.....just make sure to never talk bad about her in front of the child and make him/her feel right at home in your company....
Good Luck!!!!!!
2006-07-14 07:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you took in this guy, you took on his now 3 year old and the little females' mom besides. The ex is going to be in that childs life continuously for the subsequent 15 years, or maybe longer, for life. you should besides hit upon a thanks to attend to her now. It extremely would not remember how she feels about her ex, they are divorced, she's a state away and that is way extra valuable than having her on your community and at your step picking that child up each weekend, isn't it? Now i believe that this female is attempting to get to you more advantageous than getting to her husband. She should be the jealous form. or you're feeling insecure and making too a lot of it. Her causes shouldn't intrude with your courting or worry you that a lot. Your substantial different went that highway and grew to grow to be off it extremely a lengthy time period in the past. do not communicate him such as her if it bothers you.
2016-11-02 01:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a new relationship always keep your eyes and ears open, it can save you a lot of pain later on. Trust me, I know. If you have made the decision to be with this person then tell the ex-wife to stop emailing you. If she does not stop find someway to block her email. You have to always consider her motivation for doing this.
2006-07-14 07:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Terrick W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Print off the emails and keep them in a safe place. Then respond to her informing her that if the harassment doesn't stop you will be contacting the police.
2006-07-14 10:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can block her email addy from being able to send you emails. You do what you feel is right for you, but your partner is right.... She is just trying to break you two up. Don't let her do that. It IS for you to make up your mind about him and ya'lls relationship, you are right! Just block her email addy and unless she makes another one, you will not hear from her again. Blocking it will just delete her emails to you, before they ever reach your in box.
2006-07-14 07:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me - I just ignored her and it worked. I know how you think it will help now to tell her where she can put her emails, but she is just really desperate and needs to get over the situaion and move on. She'll get the idea...
In my expeience she was just trying to me by Friend in order to keep a connection..it was very "Single White Female" because she changed her profiles to match mine...very weird!
anyway, My opinion is to just ignore it - it worked for me!
2006-07-14 07:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by jessfetsch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are doing the right thing. Do not respond, that's exactly what she wants. If you ignore her, she will eventually quit.
Just delete her emails without reading them or just add her name to your spam list.
2006-07-14 07:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she emails you send it straight to the spam and block the sender.
She is trying to cause mischief between, your attitude is the right way to deal with her.
Good Luck.
2006-07-14 08:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by sophie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you...I would delete the e-mails and not respond. That would open up a whole can of worms. I know you probably have something to say to her...but let it go. She needs to move on.
2006-07-14 07:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋